- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So I feel like this is more of a vent for my fiance than anything. But probably for me too.
So, when we got engaged fiance asked 3 male/1 female friend to be in his party. All of them said yeah, sure. And I’m PRETTY sure my fiance told them to save money for a tux rental. Even if he didn’t, he told them soon enough after so they would know the expectations. (As much as we’d like to pay for their rentals, we can’t afford to).
So, it comes to today…fiance calls his 3 male friends in the party…1st is his best man and he doesn’t answer (him I’m not so worried about because his girlfriend is good at getting this stuff together). 2nd friend, fiance has been talking to forever about saving SOME money ($8 a day) so he can pay for 1/2 the tux. And then I guess he always complains about not having money/being broke. But, I think even now, saving $8 to pay for half the tux rental ($75) is reasonable. Though there continues to be complaints about not being able to, not having a job, whatever. So I suggested to fiance to just tell his friend we can’t afford to pay it in full, so if he can’t pay the 1/2, we’ll find another way for him to be involved that won’t cost him $. I guess he got a bit upset about that, apparently because he doesn’t understand the reason he has to wear a tux. I told fiance to blame it on me if he wants…regarding formalness and whatever. Fiance is talking to him right now though and we’ll see how that resolves.
Oh, so 3rd friend…fiance has called him mulitple times over the few months, never got a response. Apparently he called today during his brief work break, and at the end of the call fiance was like we need to talk about the wedding, at which point his friend says I don’t even know if I can go, but I have to go back to work. So they end up texting, and his friend says I never said I was going, and I didn’t know I had the responsibilty of doing anything. Then he said why didn’t you have the wedding in your home state, where all your friends and family are. Eventually, fiance said to him just come if you can, and don’t be a groomsman. So, I guess that was decided.
Now, I think he’s going to ask another friend to be involved…it was a friend who I think he should have asked from the beginning (in part because I knew he’d come through). But…yeah.
So, this situation is frustrating. Most of all, I feel bad for him. He seems to be okay with the one friend dropping out…though I think he also feels bad about not being able to rely on his friends. Which is a bigger issue. But…yah.
Vent over. Thanks everyone. And on a nice note, I’m talking to my mom who is being very helpful. So, that’s cool. 🙂