(Closed) Grrrr!! He is making me so frustrated tonight!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all, but then again, I am of the same mind as you. I think that after he thinks about it for awhile, he will get over it. Maybe you shouldn’t have changed so much at one time. Try going a little slower. I know it is hard because you want to create a home for yourself, but guys need to know that their identity won’t be lost in the process.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I wouldn’t throw something out before asking first as he may have promised to give to a friend and hadn’t told you or wanted to sell it.. but whatever, he’ll get over it! 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The heads would have been dried out probably.  That’s what I would have told him, a printer has to be used or it goes dry (unless it’s laser, I am not sure about those).

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im the same as you, hubby is a horder and if i let him he has stuff all over the house and he now knows i will throw it  out if its left there for longer than a week

i dont know why he obsessed about the printer but it happens – hubby once freaked out about cheap crappy computer speakers that he didnt touch for MONTHS and then decided one day he needed them – i threw them out and he didnt even notice, i told him next time he should take them to his office and not leave them lying in the hallway

 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, I probably wouldn’t have thrown anything away without asking first…

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I probably would have tossed it too.  That’s how I clean…if I haven’t used or thought of it in a year it goes.  If he thinks it was a “perfectly good printer” why hasn’t he used it in the last three years? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

you should of left the printer lol. JK! dont kill me

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have to say that I’m on both sides.  I wouldn’t have wanted a perfectly useful printer to go in the garbage (like him), but I definitely agree with you that it is unnecessary to keep something that doesn’t get used. I probably would have asked around to a friend or a local school to donate it so that someone could get use of out it (as a teacher, I’d love to have a printer in my classroom!). He really shouldn’t be dwelling on it though, and maybe should have explain more concretely why he is so upset to see it go.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Maybe you guys can agree to go through stuff together from now on.  Its great that you have him on board with the new decor idea and you want to keep that support. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

So did you actually throw it away, or did you donate it to Goodwill or something?  I would have been upset if my husband had literally thrown away a perfectly good printer, but if he’d given it to Goodwill (or something like that) that would have been fine with me.  If it had been sitting around for three and a half years and he never used it, then I think you get to get rid of it without having to ask.  It’s not like he was letting the printer age until it was ripe or something.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance and i have a rule…6 months top if him or i havent touched it…its gone! I am so thankful for that.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m totally on your side for this. I don’t understand why he has a connection to a printer he hasn’t used in 3 years. It seems like you even went out of your way to make sure that you kept his treasures.

Maybe he just has trouble adjusting to change and he’s expressing his discomfort by harping on something that doesn’t really even matter to him. Even though he said he’s onboard, some people psychologically are very intolerant of change and act out when it happens. I mean he’s being pretty unreasonable…not speaking to you since yesterday over a printer?!

I think that it was totally fine for you to throw out the printer, BUT it wouldn’t hurt to apologize for not discussing throwing it out before you did (just to open up lines of communication…not talking for this long over something so trivial is silly). It might make him feel a little better. He definitely owes you an apology too, for overreacting the way he did and for not appreciating that you were trying to make the condo a space y’all could both be proud of.

 

 

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