(Closed) Grrrr! I'm so mad.

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had this happen to me. I told the “unqualified person” that I wanted them to enjoy and be a guest at the wedding. I didn’t want to “trouble them.” Then I asked someone else. 

I think wedding photos are pretty important and it’s not fair of him to make a committment without first consulting you. It’s pretty hard to be open to an idea—that he already decided on without you. Stick to your guns, girl!Wink

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

It’s only $250.  You pay for your photographer, and let the boss’s wife shoot the wedding too.  No harm done if her pictures are bad, and Fiance and his boss are happy.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

You can’t have a photographer who takes bad photos do your wedding shoot.This has to be explained to your Fiance. I doubt a professional photographer will allow another photographer to take pictures.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

Just because you said you wouldn’t shoot down his ideas does not give him the right to just say OK to something you haave not discussed. he knows you have a photographer you love, I personally would be mad at him for that. 

My man is also getting funny about spending “sooo much” on weddings. I think I’d do what the PP said and ask your fiance to not make decisions without  talking to you first like you did with him.

 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@moriah:  ahhh be careful though, my photographer will not let anyone shoot with her

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

can you have her do a practice shot so that fi can see how much she sucks? boss’s wife…yikes.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Could he say that you have already booked a photographer, and he forgot/didn’t know?

That’ll make it less awkward for him.

As for not shooting down his ideas, in this case I think you might have to! I know it seems mean, but having nice pictures is important (at least to me). Could you give him certain things to organise? Maybe some DIY projects, or ask him to pick out a groom’s cake, or a reading, or what decor he likes?

Alternatively, you could consider hiring her as a second shooter IF the photographer you want will allow other photographers there. I know it’ll probably be $250 down the drain, but it might make him happy.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@allyfally:  So have him say “Sorry Boss, I didn’t realize AllyFally had actually booked a photographer already.”

Did you and your Fiance not meet together with your photographer before placing your deposit?  Like you, my Fiance had no clue on the cost of wedding photography. The one recommended by good friends (who are both professional photographers whose work I like) was quite pricey, even by my standards.  Other acceptable photographers I contacted were already booked for our date, so I had to move quick.

Our photographer arranged a metting with both of us, and basically interviewed us for an hour to find out about us, our plans for the day, etc.  That seems to be pretty standard, and it gave us a chance to really feel comfortable with her, and cement our decision to hire her.  As we left our meeting, Fiance was as pumped to have her shoot our wedding, despite the higher cost than he expected, as I was.

I would also consider, if I were you, planning time each week, or every two weeks, to go over your wedding planning and get his feedback.  It could be a Sunday after breakfast, or whatever.  I assumed my Fiance is not interested in the details, but he’s more interested than I thought and definitely interested in seeing how it’s all coming together. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Show your Fiance the samples from each photographer. I would explain to him that at the end of the day your pictures are all you’re going to have of your wedding, yo really need to go for the better photographer!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@allyfally:  In this case, i would ask your Fiance to lie (simply because it involves his boss).

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