(Closed) grrrr…just got an rsvp 6 days after due date with a +3

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Sheesh, if never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be… I think you should have your Fiance call/email/contact him somehow and explain to him that it’s a small, intimate wedding, and that you simply don’t have room for his +3. Since your Fiance was the one who insisted on invitingh him, it should be your Fiance who handles it!

Post # 4
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Very simply.  You call and say, "I’m sorry we have only reserved a space for you and one guest.  I look forward to seeing you there, but understand if you cannot attend, if you have trouble finding care for your children blah blah blah."

Rude!  Late and rude.

Post # 5
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ooohhh that sucks.  We had a few of those….also had a few that never returned the RSVP and just showed up…with additional guests of their own….Anyway…Can you send a note or something saying something like "We’re so so glad you can join us. Unfortunately, we have limited space and cannot accomodate two extra individuals ( you could add "at the reception" so it seems like you are trying)."?  You can always (nicely) blame it on the late RSVP-saying you had to get the numbers in and it’s not possible to accomodate that number after the numbers are in.  Is it possible they won’t come?  I stopped attending stuff with my parents if I didn’t really know the people during my teen years.  Maybe they will do the same?  Good luck!

Post # 7
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have had a few people who were single add dates.  Since these particular people are friends with at least 10 or 15 other guests, I had no problem gently informing them that based on space restrictions we can’t accomodate extra guests.  Especially since you are having a smaller wedding, there is NO reason not to be (politely) clear.  But yeah, definitely have your fiance talk to him, that should not be your concern.

Post # 8
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yes, but are you surprized, even a little? People can be so rude…

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