- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
sigh. 15 days before the wedding and I have to vent. Feel free to skip this post if you would like, but I’m going to type it all out because it will make me feel better.
Our RSVP due date was three weeks ago. THREE. WEEKS. Our RSVPs were postcards, already stamped, and all anybody had to do was check yes or no and stick em in the mail. Easy peasy. But, of the 40 or so invitations that went out, we only got about 10 RSVPs back. Yes. 10. And that might be pushing it.
So that’s thing #1 that’s pissing me off… it is NOT that hard to stick an RSVP in the mail!!!!
Thing #2- so after we realized we weren’t getting anymore RSVPs back, we started calling people… and calling, and calling, and calling. My mother called some too, since some of the nonresponders were her friends, only invited because she wanted them there. So she called, we called, and together, we got a few responses back- some yes, some no. At this point in time, I made a list of all the “yes” answers and all the “no” answers, and then put everyone else (the people we couldn’t get ahold of right away) onto the “maybe” list. We had about 15 people on there- a number which had the potential to make a HUUUUGE impact on our budget. So we kept calling, got ahold of more people, and eventually the number of people on the maybe list dwindled down to just a few, and the number of people on the yes and no list grew considerably (the yes list only grew a little bit, the no list grew a lot- at this point, fine by us). We figured we just weren’t going to hear back from some of the people and that they therefore weren’t coming, and my mom had also gotten ahold of some of her friends who told her no. So we felt like we were okay with the guest count, we talked to the caterers and told them we were right on our original guest count we’d given them, and everything was dandy.
Then, over the weekend and into this morning, we have recieved SEVEN YES RSVPs- by word of mouth, text or otherwise. SEVEN more people- two weeks before the wedding. REALLY?!?!?! gah.
Luckily, my mom stepped up and said she would pay for those guests over our original guest count that we’d given the caterers (5 of the 7 late RSVPers were her friends), but it’s still frustrating. There are reasons we set RSVP deadlines and we spent money putting postage on RSVPs that never got used… it just feels like people don’t care. GRRR.
Oh and also, one of my FI’s bridesmaids still hasn’t bothered to get a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress… or tell us when she’ll be arriving in San Diego for the wedding. She also RSVP’d to our bridal shower and then last minute (as in, an hour before it started), came up with some lame excuse and didn’t show. This person is supposed to be one of FI’s dearest friends… so I’m trying not to say anything, and if worst comes to worst I figure she just won’t be in the wedding. Her little boy is supposed to be our ringbearer, and he doesn’t have an outift yet either… but again, if worst comes to worst, we just won’t have a ringbearer. But still- how’s that for rudeness and not caring?
Sigh. I feel better now. Thanks for letting me vent.