(Closed) Grrrr….*vent*

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aww, well you have us. 

Maybe he’s tired of talking about it because he wants to do it on his own?  Do you think he just doesn’t want to get engaged or he just doesn’t want to talk abuot it?  Maybe he’s already in the process of getting a ring?

Take that $1,000 and put it aside to help pay for the wedding. 

*HUG*

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry this has happedned….

Did he propose? do you think he isn’t ready for marriage?

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@countrygirl12:  Well, I’m sure he wouldn’t feel very “manly” with your grandmother wanting to pay for some of the ring. Also, he might want to propose in his own time, in his own way….he might feel he is being pushed

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@russian_doll:  +1

It sounds like he just doesn’t want to TALK about it anymore, not that he doesn’t want to do it.  Back off and give him some time.  Have you discussed a timeline at all before this?

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It does sound as if he’s planning to propose and marry you if you’ve looked at rings and you’ve set a tentative date for next September.

I agree with prior posters who have suggested that perhaps your S.O. has already begun the process of buying a ring, does not want to have your grandmother’s money used toward a ring, or just doesn’t want to feel as if you’re trying to control the planning of the proposal.

I would try not to be upset or discouraged over this.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@countrygirl12:  Then perhaps you should give yourself a timeline.  In your mind set a date; if he doesn’t propose, you walk out.  And when he asks why, say he didn’t want to talk about it. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just let things go at their own pace 🙂 *BIG HUGS*

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

@countrygirl12:  I am not trying to be Negative Nancy at all…But, he says he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore..Six timelines have come and gone now! I am not so sure he WILL marry you. It sounds to me he may not want marriage and is just stringing you along. Just my two cents..Take it for what it’s worth, but if it was me, and SIX TIMELINES had come and gone and he wont even discuss it with me?? I am packing my bags..

I would sit down and have a heart-to-heart with him. Is he going to marry you or isn’t he? If you just drop it again, what’s to say your tentative September wedding timeline wont come and go too? If he’s not even willing to discuss saving up for a RING, how are you two saving up for a wedding? Forgive me if I am being naive, but he just doesn’t sound like the nervous groom waiting for the right time to propose. He sounds like he does not want to get married now, if ever.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I bet it is the manliness thing! Maybe he has a plan, and then money did not go his way, but he still wants that feeling of accomplishment like “yes i bought her this ring, i am man enough.” if he’s really upset about it, and he has not “fixed” it yet in his brain, that is probably why he does not want to talk about it.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m with Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug: if 6 timelines have come and gone he’s not interested in marrying you.  Using money as an excuse is lame.

 

Time to start using the gym membership and taking care of yourself, girl.

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