Post # 1
So we decide Monday to have a small wedding of 30 people in just 2 weeks…(1 November)
Well that all changed drastically we are now sitting with 90 people including kids. We originally sent invites to 80 people thinking that two weeks’ notice wouldn’t really work for everyone. And just to please both sets of inlaws. Guess what we were STUPID IDIOTS!
So now what do I do? Feel like calling it off and just get married with the 30 we had originally wanted.
Can I do that? Can I call it off or would that just be rude?
Post # 2
That sounds a little crazy… Do you have a venue or anything? I think now that you’ve invited people it’s a little rude to say SIKE I only invited you because I thought you wouldn’t come… Is there any way you can swing it? If so I’d say suck it up, you should have only invited the 30 and stuck to your guns. Maybe ask the inlaws for help?
Post # 3
Let me make sure I have the details right:
You invited 90 people to your wedding in 2 weeks, and they are all coming. You only wanted to invite 30 people.
No, you can’t call it off! You invited these people, and they’re coming. It would be really bad to uninvite them.
What’s the main issue — are you now over budget? Or is it that you wanted a more intimate wedding?
Post # 4
Well you can’t really uninvite people without causing a lot of animosity and hurt feelings. If it is in your budget to host all these people (which I hope it is since you invited them) I’d just go through with it.
Post # 5
stillme: playdohpants: Well I wanted it small, FML Mother and Fiance wanted it bigger. Now im stuck We can not really afford them. But are trying to make a plan. I feel so stupid!
Post # 6
FutureMrsLandi: First congrats! I love this idea. I wanted something quick too as after we decided to get married we didn’t want to wait another minute.
I think the guest list grows for a lot of people and you are just experiencing on a super short timeline. No need to cancel it. At the end of the day, you’ll have what you wanted– to be married. Just figure out what you can afford And be a gracious host. You are a lucky couple to have so many folks who want to share the day with you even on short notice.
Post # 7
Here we go with another “we invited more then we can afford”. when inviting people to an event only invite what you know you can afford… So that when everyone RSVPs yes, then your not stuck. At least you know for next time. But no, you CANNOT call it off just bc YOU invited too many people. Your gonna have to pinch pennies.
Post # 8
FutureMrsLandi: Is your mother in law paying for the extra 60 people?
Post # 9
FutureMrsLandi: Obviously it would be rude to uninvite people. If it is in two weeks then they probably have made last minute ($$$) plans and may have purchased new outfits, taken time off work to travel, etc.
Can you change it so it is just a short cocktail party rather than sit down dinner? Can you maybe work out a payment plan with your venue? I’m baffled that you could put together a wedding in two weeks as it is.
Post # 10
It would be very rude to call it off since you already invited all of those people. It’s time to pinch pennies, ask your parents for help, and grab your credit card. Maybe you can get one of those credit cards with 0% interest for the first year and slowly pay it off. I don’t recommend hosting an event that you can’t afford, but what’s done is done.
Post # 11
Oof, that sounds like a sucky situation! Don’t uninvite anyone; the offense you will give people could really affect your relationships with those people long-term. I think these are your options (as far as I can brainstorm):
– Change the wedding to to a cocktail/apertifs do or change the time to the afternoon and have a brunch rather than a dinner.
– Cancel the wedding. Put it off for a few months. When you send out invitations again specifically tell everyone you decided to do something much smaller.
– Cancel the wedding and elope.
– Go ahead with the wedding. Pay for it. And enjoy the fact that 90 people were willing to cancel their plans two weeks ahead to come to your wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
don’t fret! There are options. If your numbers are inflated this much then yes, it may be difficult but there are affordable options.
First of all you need your venue. Is that booked? Or do you have a space you can hold the event?
Next instead of sit down dinner do strictly appetizer and bar style.
It will all work out! and Congrats you’re getting married in less than a month!
Post # 13
FutureMrsLandi: like everyone else is sayong,you cannot unonvite 50 people. However,you can still can cell the big wedding and have a ceremony with your parents/siblings only. If anybody says anything,which they will,say it was the venue or the caterers. But do not go into debt over somethingyou don’t even want!
Ps- I’m a Nov 1st bride too!!
Post # 14
FutureMrsLandi: So are the parents going to pay for the people they asked you to invite?