Post # 1
My boyfriend’s brother’s wife’s brother. Or SO’s brother’s brother in law lol.
I don’t feel good about it because their date is set for next year’s Sunday prior to memorial day. *I* was eyeing that date because it’s a holiday weekend for which more people can take off to go out of town AND lots of places give discounts for Sunday receptions.
I’m just getting so mad at everything because of this timing! SO’s brother and sister in law are moving to Hawaii next month so they’re clearing out their house full of furniture and giving away a bunch of stuff. This would be a very nice time to take advantage of collecting free furniture if SO and I had a house together BUT WE DON’T BECAUSE WE AREN’T MARRIED!
(Our parents are traditional so our 80% cohabitiation is a secret. I rent one bedroom in a house owned by a married couple and he has a 1 bedroom 1 bath apartment.)
I’ve expressed that I’m happy for the newly engaged couple. I don’t think I officially congratulated SO’s SIL for her promotion but, in truth, yes I’m happy for them. But it’s so hard to jump for joy when everyone is moving forward in life and I’m not!
Post # 4
@MrsJoyful80: Thank you!! Much appreciated.
Post # 5
The venues I looked at usually charged MORE for memorial day weekend for all the reasons you listed. Don’t worry, when you get engaged you’ll be able to claim your date and it will be an amazing day!
Post # 6
I understand why you’re bummed. Big hug to you!! It will be alright. Have you talked with SO about a timeline? Is marriage something that he’s interested in and has spoken with you about? What’s holding you two back right now (if anything–school, age, finances)? Knowing where you both stand will make the waiting easier, I think. 🙂
Post # 7
Big hugs…I know how frustrating this can be! Hang in there…
Post # 8
I know it can be rough. I imagine how horrible it must be to hear mention the potential date you had in mind. 🙁
Post # 9
@ChicChick: Well it won’t have been the first time.
I went home after work and called my mommy lol. She told me I should have another talk with him. I said fiiiiiiiiiine even though we’ve had the talk a million times.
He says I need to be patient but not for too much longer. So hopefully that means… well, what it means.
Post # 10
Ugh, so know where you’re at right now. Two sets of friends of ours got engaged in the past few days, and the first are really great, loving friends and I could not be happier for them. But the second (heard about this, oh, an hour ago) are pseudo good friends who are often difficult to be around, and for some reason, it’s really irking me. Has nothing to do with dates or anything, but I know what you mean, it’s hard to be patient!! As we’ve been getting closer, we haven’t talked about it much, and I’m trying so hard not to bring it up! Oh, what to do…But don’t worry, you’ve got good company here!
Post # 11
Could you get their furniture and put it in a storage unit? may still be cheaper than biying your own. what if you get married over labor day, still a three day weekend and still summer (or fall if that floats your boat)
Post # 12
@missjuli: ::hugs:: dont worry it will be worth it when he finally asks you! and you will get to pick a great date and venue! cheer up