Post # 1
hello ladies when did u decide on a guest list in particular for a destination wedding. didyou send invites/STDs to people you knew wouldn’t show up? what happens if some one u wherent expecting said they would attend? Did you have a set # of guest before you made ur list or did the list grow on its own? Or did your venue dictate the number of guest?
i know its alot of question but other then parents and siblings i have no idea how to make a guest list both my SO and my family are rather big. I have a feeling most of my family asaid from parents and siblings wont show up, since I’m not too close to them and i realize the financial strain. Its technically a destination weddign since we live in hawaii and most our guest would be from california. I was hopping to get Save-The-Date Cards out by christmas but i have no idea how to start a list.
thank you ladies for your input in advance
Post # 3
I made a list of everyone we wanted to invite, whether we thought they’d come or not. We sent an STD to the entire list. These were people that I would want at my wedding wherever we were having it, not people I felt obligated to invite ‘just because’. So, I felt they all deserved an STD. You might also just send an STD to people that don’t live in Hawaii so they can plan their travel accordingly. It might also be useful to sit down with your parents to get a feel of who are the most important family members to invite.
I’ve also remembered a few people that did not get an STD with the first batch and since I had to order 100 postcards, I just send them one when I remember. I have pretty laidback friends and family, so no one gets offended by that.
I am also of the ‘the more the merrier’ mindset. So, if someone who I didn’t expect to come, comes, great. If they are going to pay to come all the way to my wedding, the must like us, which hopefully in turn means we like them too! I also feel like it’s not that much of a burden for me cost-wise. The wedding is going to be costing me around 7,000 so if people need to/want to bring a travel companion or two, it’s fine by me…