Post # 1
my fiance and I invited a friend and her husband to our wedding, he is not able to make it so she asked if she could take her parents in his place. I was really torn b/c I didn’t want to sound like jerk, but it really bothered me that she would ask me to invite them… I would never do that. I told her that we already had our list of guest and that it wasn’t possible for them to attend.
Post # 3
wow… that’s pretty bad if you ask me. I think it’s rude to try and get a different guest allowed in place of the invited guest… but TWO people in place of one? That’s just bad math… and not good on your budget. Plus, if you allow that, then what will you tell someone else who hears about it and wants to bring an extra person or a guest in place the the person invited? I think it would be opening Pandora’s box. . . just explain the budget and seating will not allow for an additional guest and that you are sorry. I am sure she will understand… I cannot believe she even asked that!
Post # 4
WOW! That is totally rude. You did the right thing.
Post # 5
I would have done the same thing. The friend was rude to even ask!
Post # 6
That is a really bizarre request – I would have said the same thing.
Post # 7
i really don’t know what it is about weddings that makes people go crazy! like why would it be ok to bring 2 extra people?? i have had so many people ask me if they can bring people even if they were not invited with a guest…i’ve also had people ask me if their parents were invited!! some one in my soon to be family asked to invite an extra 6 people that i don’t even know…i just don’t know what it is about weddings that makes people go nuts!! i think you did the right thing!! stay strong!!
Post # 8
a friend of the family asked to bring three extra people and one person actually invited herself and is thinking (although i told my mom they couldn’t come) of bringing e extra besides her husband. I honestly wouldn’t even mind paying for the extra person except that our space physically CANNOT fit these people in. It is incredible though that people would think of bringing more than one guest. I don’t think it is rude to bring a guest, but it is odd for me as well as I didn’t anticipate having space constraints as more people have thought of coming than we anticipated. It is quite a bind but you ahve to set limits and guests should understand that.
Post # 9
It is a weird request. You would think that everyone would know that a wedding is not like a house party; the invitation isn’t for you and whoever else you can find to come. If you don’t want to go by yourself because your husband can’t make it then just don’t go! Don’t cause the bride to go crazy over something like this!
Post # 10
That is very strange… and rude. If you were close to her parents, wouldn’t you have invited them already. I would have said no too!
Post # 11
Just tell her that you only had 2 seats reserved for her and her husban….so she could bring her mother in place of him or something, but not both. We made the mistake of not reeling in our guest list soon enough, and stuff like this got out of control…
So my advice to you: Start standing your ground early!