(Closed) Guest Attire…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is the dress code for your wedding?
    Black Tie : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Black Tie Requested : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Black Tie Optional : (5 votes)
    10 %
    Cocktail Attire : (30 votes)
    58 %
    Beach Chic : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Beach Casual : (0 votes)
    Casual : (6 votes)
    12 %
    Other {please explain} : (5 votes)
    10 %
    Honey! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I think we said dressy casual, whatever that means. We don’t want jeans but it’s still pretty casual. I went to one that said to dress elegantly, i thought that was confusing.

    Post # 4
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Dressy casual here too!

    Post # 5
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Every single wedding I have attended was the default semi-formal that is an unspoken given where everyone shows up in Sunday Best attire, which might be translated as Business Casual or something similar and no one ever said anything about feeling out of place because everyone else was wearing something of the same formality (or lackthereof). I’ve never heard of or seen guests being told or asked what to wear and have always been told that it’s actually rude to do so. I’ve heard of ultra formal and ultra casual weddings where guests are to dress accordingly but I have yet to actually see one in person.

    Post # 6
    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    The best attire code I have ever heard of is “Red Sea Rig” which makes me laugh just thinking about it! I thought it would be funny to put that on our invitations and see what people came up with!

    Post # 8
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Oh this is a good one. Our wedding is super elegant and at a truly unique venue. I would love to put Black Tie on our invites, but due to the current economy situation, I’m unsure how fair that is. So now I can’t decide if it should read optional or requested….

    Post # 9
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Mine was casual. I was okay with pretty much anything except jeans, flip-flops, and shorts, and I told people as much. I can understand wanting a different attire for other kinds of weddings, though.

    What killed me were two things: 1) my brother taking off his dress shirt immediately after the ceremony to reveal a t-shirt and 2) my Mother-In-Law wearing sunglasses in all the photos, even when I asked her to take them off — just for a picture! She said she had bags under her eyes.

    I haven’t seen anything weird in wedding dress requirements.

    Post # 10
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    ours is black tie optional – so folks who own tuxes can trot them out if they wish but no one has to go rent one. but we are asking people to honor the chinese tradition of black being a color of mourning. guests are being asked not to show up head to toe in black. that’s normal in asia, but i guess a little less typical here in us.

    Post # 12
    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would have liked to specify coctail attire, but I forgot to mention anything on our invitations so……oops. 

    Post # 13
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @KateMW-Thanks. It’s seems so silly but it’s been on my mind. We’re getting married our the Maritime Aquarium in CT. We wanted a very elegant & formal wedding at a crazy unique venue. I would love to see all the guests walking around in their tuxes and gowns amidsts the sharks, turtles, seals, and penguins!

    It’s a bit pricey but my fiance & I are paying for it ourselves. We would really like our guests to dress for the occasion and be formal with us.

    Post # 14
    2007 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I put other because I’m expecting something between cocktail and casual.  The closest I came to telling guests what to wear was reminding them to wear appropriate shoes and to bring a jacket in case it cools off once the sun goes down.  I know some girls will be showing up in cocktail dresses, others will wear jeans and my uncle may very well wear shorts.  It’s not really going to change the feel of the wedding. 

    Post # 15
    202 posts
    Helper bee

    As a Florida bride, we all show up in our sundresses.  I was shocked to hear that a wedding I was going to (Summer, Boston, 1:30 service) was cocktail attaire! I felt scandalous wearing my cocktail dress in such a nice cathedral.  For our wedding, I’m sticking to Beach Chic. I love sundresses and linen suits and I think our guests will be much more comfortable in less layers.

    Post # 16
    48 posts

    So funny how different regions are so different! We are from NYC but having a wedding on a farm in New England, and we are worried people will be too dressed up! I’ve only ever been to black tie or black tie optional weddings. For ours, we want men in suits or sport coats and women in sundresses or short cocktail dresses. I wasn’t sure if I should put a dress code on the website, though. So far I haven’t, but maybe I would put cocktail attire? Or dressy casual? Not sure!

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