Post # 1
So here’s a situation I’m unsure of that I’ve been tossing back and forth in my head today after one of my groomsmen’s girl friend asked if she could wear a dress that matches his vest/tie so that they match. Of course that means she would match the bridal party. I feel like that’s an obvious colour choice to avoid, no?
She knows the exact colours of everything because she was also the sales rep at the tux store! I don’t want to be rude but am kind of annoyed. I appreciate that she asked but I almost have to say it’s fine because otherwise I’m “bridezilla”…
Post # 3
Huh… that is strange of her, imho. What color is it? Is it a common dress color, or one that is definitely a bridesmaid color?
Post # 4
Just politely explain to her that you would really appreciate if she didn’t wear the same color as your bridal party. I think that is a very reasonable request. Tell her that you want your BMs to be able to stand out that day and there are other ways she can dress herself to coordinate with ther date.
Post # 5
I would never purposefully wear the same color as the bridal party (obviously you don’t always know ahead of time so it might occasionally happen – but never on purpose).
ETA: We have the same avatar!
Post # 6
@Mrs.KMM: haha we totally have the same avatar..
I totally understand if it wasn’t intentional or if the colour was a fairly common colour but it’s a plum/wine colour. And I’m sure she’ll match precisely since she knows the vest colour! Bleh.
Post # 7
I think it is lame to match your Boyfriend or Best Friend. You aren’t going to prom.
I hate when the parents of the bride or groom coordinate with the party. It looks too planned out.
Post # 9
@rosesarered: It totally threw me off when I opened the post. I was like “wait a minute, I didn’t start any threads today!”
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: It threw me off when I saw your comment! I was thinking I was getting ahead of myself
@Klb5882: haha prom…so true.
If she really wants to match him, I’m sure she could wear black…
Post # 11
Yeah I would tell her if she wants to match she should wear whatever the color of the tux is.
Post # 12
I would ask her if she could wear a different shade of the color… like if the bridesmaids are in eggplant, tell her she can wear lilac or a print/pattern, but you’d rather have just the bridesmaids wearing your specifc shade of eggplant. remember, some guests may wear your color without even realizing they’re matching and some may intentionally wear the color because they think they’re supposed to!
Post # 13
@Mrs.KMM: @rosesarered: Oh man I am going to be confused now!
I wouldn’t stress too much about it. She isn’t going to be in any pictures, but I would comment that matching your Boyfriend or Best Friend is a bit middle schoolish. 🙂
Post # 14
I actually like to match my Fiance sometimes! Especially if it’s a fun color. But I don’t go out of my way to do it. I don’t think it’s middle school or childish if it’s done the right way… so I don’t understand what the big deal is.
However, I don’t like to be in the same color as the bridal party. It just seems awkward to me. I wouldn’t be mad though… Is she planning on wearing a dress that is the solid color, or has the color’s highlights?