(Closed) Guest attire?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We aren’t putting it on the invites, but we’ve told people who’ve asked that it’s semi-formal to casual.

Post # 4
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wanted to put "cocktail attire" down just to indicate that it was a semi formal affair (seroiusly i don’t think everyone has enough common sense to dress nicely) but the fiance said that it sounded too bridezilla and that i would be telling the women they HAVE to wear dresses. Anyways, instead I’ve been spreading the news, saying it is a semi formal wedding, and indicating so on our website. People think since it’s an outdoor summer wedding with knee-length Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses ours is casual, so sometimes people just do’nt know. I don’t see the hurt in doing it tactfully =]

Post # 5
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2021 - The Homestead, Hot Springs, Virginia

Hahaha, yes. This is a good question. I am writing a post on silly attire requirements (and ours is silly): garden luxe (I mean, what do you wear to a late afternoon wedding with a formal dinner afterwards)! So silly!

Post # 6
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

On my wedding website I included a section about what to wear- I wanted to make sure no one showed up in jean or too informal since it is a beach wedding. I suggested they look to Tommy bahama, Ann Taylor, and JCrew for inspiration

Post # 7
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I want to put cocktail attire on our invitations, but FI  says NO WAY. I don’t understand why people wouldn’t dress up for a wedding, but I know that some of our guests won’t. I guess it’s one of those things we have to live with.

Post # 8
596 posts
Busy bee

We didn’t specify what type of attire the guests should wear but in our social circle, 90% of our friends assume that wedding means that the guy should wear a suit and the girl should wear a nice dress and that was fine with us.  I don’t think they would have dressed any differently unless we specified "casual attire", which we definitely didn’t want.

Post # 9
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’ll do Black Tie Optional.

Check out Peng’s post on this. Very helpful.

Post # 10
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m definitely stating "casual attire encouraged" for our backyard barbecue wedding.

Post # 11
484 posts
Helper bee

We’re Black Tie and unlike El Capataz we aren’t nice enough to make it optional 😉

I’m sure it will annoy some guests but we’re totally OK with that. It’s a formal evening and we’d like our guests to dress appropriately. My sister did the same and she didn’t have to much trouble with it. All the men were actually quite impressed with how dapper they looked!

Post # 12
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

I put cocktail attire on our invites. I hope it didn’t sound bridezilla, I didn’t even think about it! Since our wedding is in the evening I actually put that to kind of take off the pressure to be too formal. I personally always stress out a lot when I don’t have any attire guidelines for events. I live in fear of being the most or least dressed up.

Post # 13
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m hoping and praying that my guests know how to dress.  But in the end, will I really care if someone shows up in something a little more casual?  I doubt it.  I’m just happy to share the day with everyone!

Post # 14
122 posts
Blushing bee

We put Black Tie Optional. I would have loved to just say Black Tie, but I figured no matter what I put, not everyone would do it, so if I put optional then I won’t be disappointed 🙂 I think at least it alerts people that you are having a formal wedding. I assume people appreciate knowing what will be appropriate to wear. Nothing worse IMO than showing up somewhere way too casual or too dressy!

Post # 15
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

This is a good question, we’re lost too!
We’re having an outdoor ceremony, cocktail hour and rececetion. I want our guests to be comfortable, in case it is too hot, but I don’t want them not to dress up or, GOD FORBID, wear jeans. The jeans things is my worst nightmare, I’ve been to too many weddings where this has happened.
Our wedding is in August, but I’ve suggested people dress like they would for Easter :-/ Is that weird?

Post # 16
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

"Formal garden party" with jackets and stilettos discouraged!

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