(Closed) guest bounced a check

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah that is a tough spot to be in. I would just not say anything. Their bank must have informed them of this and like you said I think they are too embarassed to say anything (I would be if that happened to me!). Why is your mom freaking out about it? It’s not like it was her check that bounced. I would just let it go and see if they contact you or send another gift (maybe cash this time?).

Post # 4
2472 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s an awkward situation to say the least.  I wouldn’t contact them about it.  If they contact you that’s fine, at least then you can tell them that it really wasn’t too much of a problem because you didn’t get charged a fee. 

Post # 5
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d leave it alone.  They’ve definitely been notified by the bank.  And I’m almost positive they’re the ones who have been given the fee to pay.  That’s such a shame, I’m sure they feel horrible about it.  They probably don’t mean to offend you by not calling. 

Post # 6
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

The same thing happened to my brother and his wife.  Our cousin’s check bounced.  I don’t know what happened with the fee from the bank but my brother started asking my mom what they (he and his wife) should do.  He was definitely more worked up about it than you are!  I think the best thing to do is to leave it be and if your relative is willing and able to address the issue then great.  If not then at least you haven’t addressed it and in the process potentially embarrassed him/her.  If I were you I would ask (tell?) my mom to drop it.  What good can come of bringing it up?

Good luck!

Post # 8
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with the others , best to do nothing. I would be beyond embarrassed if it were my check that bounced as a gift and would hate to be confronted about it.

Post # 9
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yea I would just let it go. I t would be different if you got a fee. They are 100% aware and I am sure just really embarrased.

Post # 10
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

yeah, I’m with everyone else, do nothing. They’re probably mortified.

I would send them a really gracious thank you note that’s kind of generic and never, ever bring it up. If they want to, that’s cool, but it’s nicer for them if you (or your mom) don’t.

PS – tell your mom to calm down, haha.

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