Post # 1
We deposited all our gifts three weeks after our wedding. Last week we got back a letter from our bank saying one of the checks bounced, but they’re not charging us a fee (yay).
It was one of my mom’s relatives who she’s pretty sure is having money troubles. They haven’t called us about it, should we call them? I don’t really care, but my mom’s making a big deal out of it. I assume their bank sent them a letter too and I assume they haven’t called us because they don’t have our number and are too embarased to ask their parents.
Post # 3
Yeah that is a tough spot to be in. I would just not say anything. Their bank must have informed them of this and like you said I think they are too embarassed to say anything (I would be if that happened to me!). Why is your mom freaking out about it? It’s not like it was her check that bounced. I would just let it go and see if they contact you or send another gift (maybe cash this time?).
Post # 4
It’s an awkward situation to say the least. I wouldn’t contact them about it. If they contact you that’s fine, at least then you can tell them that it really wasn’t too much of a problem because you didn’t get charged a fee.
Post # 5
I’d leave it alone. They’ve definitely been notified by the bank. And I’m almost positive they’re the ones who have been given the fee to pay. That’s such a shame, I’m sure they feel horrible about it. They probably don’t mean to offend you by not calling.
Post # 6
The same thing happened to my brother and his wife. Our cousin’s check bounced. I don’t know what happened with the fee from the bank but my brother started asking my mom what they (he and his wife) should do. He was definitely more worked up about it than you are! I think the best thing to do is to leave it be and if your relative is willing and able to address the issue then great. If not then at least you haven’t addressed it and in the process potentially embarrassed him/her. If I were you I would ask (tell?) my mom to drop it. What good can come of bringing it up?
Post # 7
she’s not freaking out because she’s angry, she’s freaking out because she’s afraid someone hacked into their account. She’s not the most logical person. She’s still insisting that we should have had a third dessert at the wedding even though the wedding was a month ago and everyone was too stuffed to even eat the wedding cake.
Maybe I should of made a post about my mom instead, lol
Post # 8
I agree with the others , best to do nothing. I would be beyond embarrassed if it were my check that bounced as a gift and would hate to be confronted about it.
Post # 9
Yea I would just let it go. I t would be different if you got a fee. They are 100% aware and I am sure just really embarrased.
Post # 10
yeah, I’m with everyone else, do nothing. They’re probably mortified.
I would send them a really gracious thank you note that’s kind of generic and never, ever bring it up. If they want to, that’s cool, but it’s nicer for them if you (or your mom) don’t.
PS – tell your mom to calm down, haha.