(Closed) Guest bringing someone I can’t stand

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Don’t worry about it, trust me. We had to invite someone I despise to our wedding, someone who often makes scenes and who has verbally abused me in public. BUT, he came, and I barely noticed him. I went up to him at the reception, kindly thanked him for coming, and I was on my way.

On the wedding day, so many people are there and there’s so much going on, you won’t notice the people you don’t like.

I know that probably doesn’t make you feel any better because I let my blood boil about inviting our despised guest for months, but I hope it at least helps a little.

Post # 4
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That’s awful that she’s such a pill.  However, rsvp-ing for someone who isn’t invited is just rude – even if she was the sweetest thing on two legs!  In my opinion, it wouldn’t be out of line to call (or have your dad call) and talk to him about it.  The invite was for [husband] and [wife] not [husband] and guest, so it’s presumptuous for him to just make his own substitution.  Nicely explain that there are people you wanted to invite, but weren’t able to include in the initial count, so that’s where you’ll be applying the wife’s headcount.  This is one of those wonderful situations where what you want to do is perfectly acceptable and in line with etiquette 🙂

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