Post # 1
We invited my dad’s friend from med school and his wife. No big deal. They are tolerable. But we got the RSVP back and although it was addressed to said friend and wife, the friend is bringing his daughter instead of his wife. This would be okay except for the fact that I cannot stand this girl. She is the most spoiled person I have ever met. Last time she visited with her dad at my parent’s house she said that the house smelled funny and the bed was too hard so at 1 in the morning she made her dad drive her to a hotel. Not even joking. The town is like half and hour away. So anyway, I am basically livid because just the thought of her being there makes me kind of ill. She makes rude comments at just about everything and I know she is going to say something terrible. Plus, it makes it look like we invited the children of my dad’s friends and I am worried that other people are going to wonder why their children weren’t invited. Ugh…
Post # 3
Don’t worry about it, trust me. We had to invite someone I despise to our wedding, someone who often makes scenes and who has verbally abused me in public. BUT, he came, and I barely noticed him. I went up to him at the reception, kindly thanked him for coming, and I was on my way.
On the wedding day, so many people are there and there’s so much going on, you won’t notice the people you don’t like.
I know that probably doesn’t make you feel any better because I let my blood boil about inviting our despised guest for months, but I hope it at least helps a little.
Post # 4
That’s awful that she’s such a pill. However, rsvp-ing for someone who isn’t invited is just rude – even if she was the sweetest thing on two legs! In my opinion, it wouldn’t be out of line to call (or have your dad call) and talk to him about it. The invite was for [husband] and [wife] not [husband] and guest, so it’s presumptuous for him to just make his own substitution. Nicely explain that there are people you wanted to invite, but weren’t able to include in the initial count, so that’s where you’ll be applying the wife’s headcount. This is one of those wonderful situations where what you want to do is perfectly acceptable and in line with etiquette 🙂