Post # 1
Another guest list situation. So, I asked one of my friends to send me the name of her boyfriend for name cards. I sent her an invite for just her, but forgot she had a boyfriend, so I told her to feel free to bring him. that was a few months ago. now, when I contact her, she replies with “oh no more bf, but my sister will be my plus one.”
Im a bit torn. I know her sister, but we are not close. to be honest im even trying to remember her name. I just think its too late to tell her anything. plus, their father just passed away and would feel so awkward to say “oh, I thought you were with your bf, thats why I extended the plus one to you.”
my hubby though said that it was rude for her to do that. sigh.
I think I should just leave it alone? but what do you guys think. I feel like the guest list is the only thing that has made me sound super mean or very strict. but again, we are already married, and we are keeping it small and simple.
am I wrong to feel this way?
Post # 3
If you’ve already budgeted for her plus one, what’s the big deal? We had a small affair as well, but personally, I wouldn’t want to attend a wedding alone, no matter the size. Especially if my father had just passed.
Post # 4
I don’t think you’re wrong, no.
However, I don’t think she’s wrong either. She probably has very little idea about wedding etiquette, etc.. All she probably knows is she had two seats, and since she isn’t with her boyfriend anymore, she’ll just bring here sister. Honestly I’d just let it go in this scenario. It sounds like she’s having a rough go (father passing, breaking up with BF) maybe she just wants her sister by her side to feel more comfortable. Is it really that big of a deal?
Post # 5
thanks! exactly. but the hubby is still thinks its not cool. whatever. Ill definitely be ignoring him. lol. 🙂
Post # 6
definitely. im totally letting it go. I honestly wish I just had the budget to invite everyone I wanted to I wouldnt have to be dealing with this whole guest list situation haha. ty!
Post # 7
I actually don’t think its rude at all in this situation. I’m sure she only asked because you had already told her she could have her boyfriend at the time. She might be feeling lonely and attending a wedding alone might make her feel worse. Let her bring her sister and she will be happier and bring more fun to your wedding that way. Plus, since you already budgeted for the extra person – you might as well.
Post # 8
Did you know her boyfriend well? I’m guessing that since you forgot about him you didn’t know him any better than you know her sister.
Glad you’re letting it go 🙂
Post # 9
I definitely think you’re doing the right thing by letting her bring her sister.
Post # 10
Yeah, the whole “invitations are non-transferrable” thing is correct etiquette, but my goodness, it sounds like she’s having a hard time of it. You’re doing the gracious, kind, and empathetic thing by not making an issue of it.
Post # 11
@skschick: Agree with the above posters.
I have a few of these, but not even that sympathetic. I have a few “my husband can’t make it, so I’m bringing so-and-so” and they don’t really have a good reason. Eh, whatevs. Budgeted for it anyway, and I don’t love going to weddings by myself so I understand.