(Closed) Guest Causing Stress / was this email a bit off?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I think you’re a bit overly sensitive, and their email was fine.

Did your invitations originate in the U.S.? When mailing internationally, once the mail hits the destination country’s postal system, there is often no rhyme or reason to how long delivery takes. If you have two pieces of international mail sent out on the same day in Country A, one might arrive at its final destination in Country B days or weeks before the other one arrives in Country C.

Also, it is kind of weird that you sent out invitations in July with an Aug. 1 R.s.v.p. deadline for a wedding that isn’t until November. Your guests in Germany were probably confused, and justifiably so, by that timeline.

Post # 4
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I didn’t read anything harsh in their email… think it’s just the bridal stress getting to you.

Keep Calm and Plan On! 🙂

Post # 5
4358 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Personally I think you’re paranoid/stressed.

I don’t think the two-week thing was meant badly, the postal service just didn’t deliver as you expected: never assume that the postal service in other countries is the same as your own.  I don’t know about Germany specifically but I’ve fallen into that trap before. 

Post # 6
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Their email seems perfectly fine to me!

As for mail times: our invites to the States arrived much faster than the ones that went overseas! Canada-US is much faster than Canada/US to Europe because they have to be sorted and sent by air-mail. Their timeline seems pretty reasonable.


Post # 7
4371 posts
Honey bee

I think it’s common in England that not everyone is invited to both the ceremony and reception, as I recall from some of the UK bees here. I didn’t find their email cutting. Just different cultural assumptions.

Post # 10
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think there’s anything to worry about!!! It sounds like everything is fixed now. I think everyone was appropriate. Don’t stress. Or feel offended. If you look hard enough you can make anything snide, but that just gets you into trouble. Just foget it. Be happy they’re coming!

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