Post # 1
I am having a wedding in June of 2016. Currently our invite list is at 155 total. However, of those 155 that we are inviting we only expect about 85-90 attend. I am having trouble deciding if this is correct. Our venue only holds 130 and I was not anticipating the number of people that I would have to invite.
Let me also say that about 95% of those invited are family. However, of those invited only about 20 live within 50 miles of the Dallas/Ft Worth area. FI’s family is all in Oklahoma, my family is scattered in Amarillo, Washington and Australia. Realistically, I do not expect everyone to attend, as that is a lot of travel expenses. But somewhere in the back of my mind, I’m concerned that everyone will RSVP yes…just beacuse they’re all family.
My question is, should I be concerned that all my guests will show up?
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Post # 2
Keep in mind if you hire photographer, videographer, they are included in the guest count as well since you will be needing to feed these people as well. I would just invite 125 people and when you get some no rsvp than invite the other people aka b-list. You are going to be in big trouble if everyone rsvp yes because than you are going to need to find another venue in order to accomondate all these people. Save yourself the trouble and only invite the number of people the venue can hold up to.
Don’t just assume some people will rsvp no because they might suprise you and rsvp yes.
Post # 3
Rule of thumb is don’t invite more than you can afford or you venue can hold. What happens if too many people RSVP yes?
Post # 4
well, it is true you’re really not supposed to invite more than the venue can hold, but I really wouldn’t worry. You have a lot of family that is from a distance away.. even without distance, people get sick, etc. I’ve never heard of anyone having 100% attendance. The best is usually 80% which would put you at 124… I would shove it to the back of your mind and not worry. Especially if the invitations are already sent.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry. A lot of people say no. Out of 155 people, you will definitely have at least 25 people say no. You’ll be find.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I wouldn’t invite more than you can hold.
I invited 100. I’ve gotten 70 “yes” back and 5 “no”. So we only have 25 left that we’re waiting to hear from…. (This doesn’t count me & my fiance, the officiant, photographers, dj, videographer etc). That said, only a couple are out of state and the ones that are, are all within 2-9 hour drives. We can seat 102 people in the dining room & if those are filled with guests then my vendors will be eating in the kitchen or at the bar.
Post # 7
We invited 145, I’ve gotten 57 ‘yes’ and 20 ‘no’ so far. There is still another 2 weeks left before the reply by date. It’s been interesting, some people I thought for sure would come can’t make it due to work obigations (which is fine). And others who I haven’t seen in years are traveling all the way from the west coast to be there. So it is really hard to plan for!
Our venue could hold up to 200 though, so I wasn’t concerned about space. Also, FYI the vendors do not need to be included in my venue’s guest total as the venue has a side room for them to eat separatly if you wish.
Post # 8
Never invite more than the venue can hold. If you send invitations early and have an early RSVP date, and if people RSVP no, then you can send additional invitations.
Post # 9
you should always expect at least a 15-20% decline rate . We invited a total of 220 and ended up with 167 (thank goodness)
IN your situation, you overinvited – it happens, most likely not all 155 will show. So I wouldn’t start to worry until you are over the 130 capacity.
Post # 10
Don’t invite more than your venue can hold. You really never know with some people. I have cousins who never come to anything family related, but when my wedding was brought up, they were the first to say “oh we can’t wait”. I think it’s just the flow of the tide. Are they busy that year? Are they not? I never know. So I’m proceeding as if they’re coming.
I know that for me (being an Okie) travel for a Texas wedding is totally reasonable.
I would take a hard look at your guest list. Are you just inviting people to put forth a nice gesture? I saved myself that grief by not inviting second cousins or cousins who are just about my mom’s age and who never see me, or rarely saw me growing up. We’re just not close. It sucks that I can’t invite everyone, but I have an absolute max of 90 I can invite. I’ve invited 70 so far.
Post # 11
We invited 210, expected/hoped for 120, our actual number is somewehre around 83-85. Most of our guests are out of towners so that is the reason for the huge regrets.
Post # 12
Thank you for all the replies! I completely agree that we shouldn’t invite more than the venue can hold. I definitely did not think this through 100%. I assumed that Fiance would be inviting about the same number as me, but his is almost double! I am not too worried, but I agree that I will send out the invitations to about 130 people first. If I am getting a bunch of no’s I will invite the 25 other people.
As for my venue, fortunately the DJ and photographer are not included in the guest count. Yay!
Honestly though guys, me and the Fiance are homebodies and I would have never imagined that we even knew 130 people worth inviting. Oh well, I’m sure it will all work out! Thanks guys!
EDIT: I also forgot to mention that my family in Amarillo does not have alot of money. They are like the kind of people that live paycheck to paycheck. Similarly, alot of FI’s family are dirt poor as well. I dont know if theyll be able to afford the trip. IDK, now Im stressing again.
Post # 13
Unfortunately, the only family that we are inviting is immediate family (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents). My dad and mom are both the youngest and both have 5 siblings EACH, almost all of whom are grown with their own families. It adds up quick. FI’s family is similar. We are inviting almost no-one from work, and the only friends we are inviting are in the wedding party. So there’s not really any family that I can cut from the list like great aunts and such. Hopefully, my cousins in Washington and Australia won’t show. That would cut about 40 off the list. Fingers crossed.
Post # 14
things can be surprising. We invited 150 and most people are traveling over 4 hours and it’s a Friday wedding on Memorial Day weekend. Truthfully a large portion was distant family who I havent seen in years and then there are some old coworkers. We weren’t limited but I thought 60 so that’s what we planned for and as of now we are already at about 100 and i think 3 people have declined so still a lot outstanding. i think you are handling it well to wait to invite more so you don’t end up having issues with the space limits