Post # 1
Have any of you actually had everyone you invited show up? I’m not sure what % you are supposed to account for no-shows, but I really think everyone I invite will show. I really am not trying to sound cocky or conceited, by any means, but I’m 32 and everyone I’ve invited have been WAITING for this day to come. Our guest list is around 180 so far. But that is including spouses and kids (31)!!!!!!!!!!!! I really want to do away with the kiddos, but I just don’t know if I have it in my heart to do that. Plus, what will guests think if I have a ring bearer & flower girl, but I told everyone else no kids? I’m hoping to have the number of people who show between 130-140, so I am really, really hoping they all don’t come, is that horrible?
Post # 4
We were expecting 150. 147 showed up, but then we also had 3 “dates” arrive, so it balanced out.
ETA – I think our original guest list was about 180. We knew our family/friends overseas woudn’t be able to make it but we still sent them invites.
Post # 5
We invited about 80, ended up with 65 (which is what we hoped for). I think thats about 81%.
Post # 6
Wait till you get the RSVPs, seriously. I said the same exact thing you did for the same reason. OUr friends/family have been WAITING for this day and since we’ve been planning for a 1 1/2 yrs (on top of the long relationship) everyone had ample time to prepare.
Truth? We sent out 150 invites and the RSVP date is tomorrow. So far I have 91 rsvps. lol And I am shocked to see some of the ppl cxling … but the fact is, things in life happen at the most inopportune times. Things happen, to everyone. So, remember that.
So, I figure after making phone calls next week, we’ll probably end with 110-115. ALOT less than ALL the ppl we thought were attending (since most are the wedding party and family). But, there ya go … wait for the rsvp before anything. That will give you a much better idea
Post # 7
I think A TON of people hope a certain amount of guests will RSVP “no”. We’re inviting about 80 and hoping for 60. We’ll see how it goes.
Post # 8
I’d love to do what njm1313 suggested, but I just can’t invite 160 people and hope abunch don’t show. Because in the unlikely event that they do, we’d have no place to put them and no food for them. I think we’ll end up doing an A/B list. Inviting the must invites and waiting for some responses before sending the rest.
Post # 9
@kala_way: First off, LOVE your picture (neverending story!!!) lol Awesome!
Secondly, yep … its scary to do what I did and I don’t recommend it to everyone (that’s for sure). But, I was late sending out our invites so I didn’t have time to come up with an A/B list. But that’s a great idea too!!!
Post # 10
We invited about 375, maybe a few more. We had a few last minute invites.
225 RSVP’d yes, and we had about 200 show. YES, we had about 25 no-shows. If I think about it too much, it makes me want to punch a lamp.
Post # 11
@njm1313:woohoo! I know, she’s so pretty even if equating her with bridal is a little creepy since she’s like 12, lol
Right now I’m just crossing my fingers and hoping it works. I’m so anal about planning that the human factor really freaks me out.
Hope you don’t have a bunch show up with no RSVP’s! I’ve heard horror stories of that.
Post # 12
According to our venue co-ordinator the average is 20-30% refusals.People always have stuff that affects these things.
I’m kind of hoping for it, too: many of our guests are people we do have to invite, but it’s really not going to ruin our day if they don’t come, you know?
Post # 13
Thank you all!!! This gives me a little peace of mind.
Post # 14
Just wanted to say that it’s totally OK to have kids in the wedding party and have no kids invited as guests. I’ve seen it done many times.
My worry is that everyone will respond yes and then we’ll have a bunch of cancellations the week of or worse, no shows since we are Out of Town for most guests. Only time will tell. We are shooting for 150 invited with 120 max accepting.
Post # 15
Invited 154, will have 80 attend. If anyone no-shows I will be pissed bc we’re paying for their dinner! lol
Post # 16
I invited 113…95 yes. ZERO no shows!! Woo-hoo!
My sister had 5 no shows out of 115.