Post # 1
My rsvp deadline was last week and I split up the remaining people that didn’t rsvp (around 40) and My Mom and Future Mother-In-Law and I made some calls and emails. While a lot of the guests responded I still have a handful that are not answering my calls or responding to emails. It’s a little bit frustrating! I invited around 200 people and was expecting 125-150 to actually come.
Well, I was way off. Right now our guest count is only 106. While we are still missing a handful of guests to respond, I don’t think we will reach over 115 guests.
This wouldn’t bother me, except for the fact that the hotel we are having the wedding at has us at a spending limit which would be a min of 120 people. So, I suppose we will have to suck it up and pay for the extra people that wont even be there to reach the min spending limit.
Sorry, I just had to vent 🙂
Post # 3
We had sooo much trouble with this, too. It took us til about a week before the wedding to really track everybody down and get them to commit. Even then, we had a few last-minute adds/drops. Would it be possible to maybe add an extra appetizer or dessert instead of paying for 120 meals?
Post # 4
We have the same problem. There are 6 or so people that we just cannot contact. At this point I’m just assuming that they are not coming. We invited a couple more dear friends who live near the wedding who were delighted to come and share the day with us!
Post # 5
Amysue: that is a great idea… I would love to add something like extra desert or something like that instead of just paying for people who wont be there. It is a spending min, so I should find out if that is possible. THANKS!!!
Post # 6
We were still hunting down RSVPs the days leading up to the wedding. It can be frustrating but try to think about what you WILL be looking forward to! It’ll all work out one way or another so I hope you’ll enjoy your planning process. 🙂
Post # 7
The one thing I don’t understand is that we are willing to wine and dine these people with copious amounts of free booze and free food (for them, expensive for us). You think they’d let us know!
Post # 8
Frankly, I get really irritated by such things. our RSVP deadline date is the 30th. I plan on e-mail/calling as many non-responders as possible and telling them that if I do not get a RSVP by the end of this week, it will be assumed that they are not coming. I will add a FEW to the final count and that will be it. If folks can’t bother to RSVP that they plan on coming, I don’t want them there!
Post # 9
Since you can’t get in touch with the folks, is there anyway you can invite plan B people to your wedding? I know it’s pretty late in the game, but it may be better than paying for food your family will have to take home at the end of the night.
Post # 10
I might be tempted to leave messages saying, "Hi there, it’s JulieMD! We’re so sorry that you won’t be coming to the wedding. We were really looking forward to seeing you. We should have some photos up on our wedding Website about a month after the event, so if you want to see what the day was like, just check out the site then. Have a great week!"
Just a suggestion…
Post # 11
@ivorygirl – haha, i like it. sneaky… but gets the point across! i just might do that when it comes time for my rsvps!