(Closed) guest count/ rsvp Frustration!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had sooo much trouble with this, too. It took us til about a week before the wedding to really track everybody down and get them to commit. Even then, we had a few last-minute adds/drops. Would it be possible to maybe add an extra appetizer or dessert instead of paying for 120 meals?

Post # 4
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We have the same problem.  There are 6 or so people that we just cannot contact.  At this point I’m just assuming that they are not coming.  We invited a couple more dear friends who live near the wedding who were delighted to come and share the day with us!

Post # 6
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

We were still hunting down RSVPs the days leading up to the wedding. It can be frustrating but try to think about what you WILL be looking forward to! It’ll all work out one way or another so I hope you’ll enjoy your planning process. 🙂

Post # 7
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

The one thing I don’t understand is that we are willing to wine and dine these people with copious amounts of free booze and free food (for them, expensive for us).  You think they’d let us know!

Post # 8
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Frankly, I get really irritated by such things. our RSVP deadline date is the 30th. I plan on e-mail/calling as many non-responders as possible  and telling them that if I do not get a RSVP by the end of this week, it will be assumed that they are not coming. I will add a FEW to the final count and that will be it. If folks can’t bother to RSVP that they plan on coming, I don’t want them there!

Post # 9
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Since you can’t get in touch with the folks, is there anyway you can invite plan B people to your wedding?  I know it’s pretty late in the game, but it may be better than paying for food your family will have to take home at the end of the night.

Post # 10
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I might be tempted to leave messages saying, "Hi there, it’s JulieMD! We’re so sorry that you won’t be coming to the wedding. We were really looking forward to seeing you. We should have some photos up on our wedding Website about a month after the event, so if you want to see what the day was like, just check out the site then. Have a great week!"

Just a suggestion… 

Post # 11
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@ivorygirl – haha, i like it. sneaky… but gets the point across! i just might do that when it comes time for my rsvps!

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