Guest demands…ready to elope

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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1195 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

keep the date YOU WANT. Of all the people who said they were coming once all my plans were changed to suit their needs and wants, no one came. So…do you

Post # 17
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Keep the October date. If people don’t want to come then sorry, say you already booked and the dates set. It’s your wedding.

Post # 18
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31 posts
Newbee

 

sparklybee2be :  

Lil Bee I’m gonna give you some tough love.  Pushover=doormat…choose to be neither.   Sit down with your Fiance and figure out what your deal breakers are and where you’re willing to be flexible.  If you two can’t be a united front on this then you have problems.  I suggest couples counseling before you get married because clearly you have issues of lack of support that you haven’t communicated clearly enough.  THIS BREEDS ANGER & RESENTMENT!  Hon, you’re going to have to learn to stand up for yourself and what you believe is right for you.  Trust me they’re going to try to influence nearly every aspect of your wedding because they know that they can.  You both have given them that message loud and clear.  

So you see some of the other bees pickup on something that had nothing to do with what you asked for.  There’s a reason for this.  We see something you think is small but its more important than picking a wedding date.   We see where problems are beginning and we’re trying to clue you in on it so you can nip it in the bud.  Please pay attention to this. Don’t let someone else ruin what’s supposed to be a happy time for you.  Make a clear plan of what you want and and stick by what’s important to you.  Hope things work out.

Post # 19
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

sparklybee2be :  I think if you end up eloping rather than a wedding (if a wedding is something you’ve always wanted) because of his family, you’ll resent the family forever. 

You do you. And you and your husband. If people want to come, they will come. You can’t plan your biggest day around some stuffy requests from people you don’t know afwully well. Your wedding is just that – YOUR wedding. Not theirs. Go with your original date and if they are too stuck up to not attend because of WEATHER** (wtf) that’s their loss. 

Post # 20
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8817 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

sparklybee2be :  

Like everybody  else, I think you should  not be giving in to unreasonable   demands . What will you do if someone else asks to bring children?  And what of guests who didn’t bring children  and then see the uncle’s  there ? 

Also, its’s all Northern hemisphere so I don’t even understand  the weather  thing unless they  are all  coming from southern Spain or something !  

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