Post # 1
friend #1: not a good friend, know a lot of the same people. we invited this person, doesn’t have a significant other so invited alone.
friend #2: old ex of friend 1. this person we do not consider a friend, know a lot of the same people as friend 1 and ourselves, we did not invite this person. this person knows about our wedding from invited mutual friends and knows they are not invited. has had a crush on my fiance before/after we started dating.
here’s the problem.
i got friend 1s reply card with friend 2s handwriting and name alongside friend 1.
this is rude right?
how should i handle this? on one side i say bring it on i don’t care, but on the other side I’m fuming like you’re joking right…
what do you think?
Post # 2
Call them and politely tell them they were not invited with a plus one, let alone plus two and they will have to come alone or not at all as you do not have room for all three. You are sorry but that is how it is. Try to be polite.
I’d be fuming too. Screaming probably.
Post # 3
“I’m sorry friend 1, there must have been a miscommunication. The invitation is only intended for you. Unfortunately, we will be unable to accommodate your guest. Please let us know if this affects your rsvp. Hope to see you at the wedding!”
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
Some people humbly phone to ask if it’s OK to bring a guest, because they aren’t etiquette masters and genuinely aren’t sure if you mind or not. That’s OK and you can politely say no sorry space doesn’t permit. A person who writes in an extra knows full well you did NOT want to offer a plus one and is aggressively forcing one on you, in my opinion. You can still take the high road and do what they should have done, politely make a phone call to say sorry, space doesn’t permit.
Post # 5
“I’m sorry. There must have been a misunderstanding. We are unable to accommodate your guest. If his means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding”.
Post # 6
One of our guests has invited a friend (uninvited), who in turn is bring 9 of his friends along. NINE. We’re in Asia so I guess this is kind of expected, but we’re not having a traditional big wedding and actually only invited about 70 people. I’m anticipating to have over 100 turn up (have planned for 120 just incase).
Post # 7
Well damn, 2 is ballsy as hell, aren’t they?
I understand your position bee, i wouldn’t be cool with someone who I don’t consider a friend at all being there, especially if there was a crush at some point.
Call 1 up “Hey I think there was some miscommunication, the invite was only for you, (one person) and I noticed that some else added on your card. Unfortunately we cannot accommodate anymore guests. We only have one seat reserved for you and cannot accommodate your guest. We understand if you will not be able to attend, and we will miss you.”