Post # 1
Ok I need your opinion, my wedding is in a few weeks, and I have a family member asking if they can bring someone. So here is the story they are traveling to come to my wedding, my cousins that is coming from Spain has a friend that will be in New York that weekend also, so he wants to invited his friend to the wedding since that is the only weekend he will be here. I’m so confused as to what to say. I’m spending a lot of money per person $200+
What do you guys think, let him bring the friend or say no.?
Post # 3
“due to venue restrictions, we can’t add any guests. I hope you can find other time that weekend to catch up with your friend!”
Your wedding isn’t a reunion, it’s your wedding. You are under zero obligation to host their catch-up session, particularly for that much money!
Post # 4
I would tell them that you already paid your venue but if someone backs out last minute (and your stuck paying for the extra plate anyways) that they can bring their friend.
Post # 5
I personally would let your cousin bring a friend. I feel that if someone is traveling so far to get to a wedding that it’s a nice gesture to let them bring a guest (normally it’s so they can have a travel buddy) but also as an extra thank you for making the effort. I’m also in the “The More the Merrier” camp so there’s that.
However, if there isn’t room in your budget or space is a concern you don’t have to extend the +1. I would tell him what @McFierce: suggested: That you already paid, but if someone backs out then he can bring is friend.
Post # 6
The friend is in from another cuntry then your cousin, I would presume that the friend doesn’t get out to visit all that often and it’s only one person. I’m also going to assume your cousin doesn’t get to spend much time with this friend.
This is one case where I would make an exception, do you really want to be the one that makes your cousin choose between a cousin’s wedding and a good friend from overseas when your cousin is ONLY in town for that one weekend?
Post # 7
@McFierce: I second this! If someone backs out at least it isn’t food/money wasted if your cousins friend replaces them.