(Closed) Guest inviting themselves to a DW

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You don’t if you tell them nothing (stop giving out details to anyone other than those invited) If they’re dumb enough to ACTAULLY arrive without being invited secruity should prevent non-attendees from attending your wedding.

Post # 4
30388 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 I presume you are not sharing the details with those who are not invited. How would they know when and where to show up?

If a friend or family member tells you that someone says they are coming, ask that friend to communicate that the invitation list for the wedding is limited.

If someone speaks directly to you, just tell them the same. “We are keeping the wedding very small. We will celebrate with everyone at a later date.”

Post # 6
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I accidentally commented on your other thread… here is what I said:


“Send out your invitations as planned, to the people you intend to invite.  When the time comes for the actual wedding, hire a bouncer (preferably one who carrys a taser gun) to man the gates.  If the person is not on the list, they don’t get in.  If they get sassy, they get tased!! 

I’m being a little sarcastic- but you can certainly spread by word of mouth that you prefer a small, PRIVATE ceremony.  And not so sarcastically, have someone at the door with a guest list, and if they aren’t on it, they don’t get in.”

Post # 7
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@smiles4jo:  If people are crass enough to show up at a wedding uninvited, than they deserve to be turned away at the door. I would talk to your Future Sister-In-Law and let her know in a roundabout way the guest list is decided and you will have a DOC at the door with the list.

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