(Closed) Guest Issue–opinions??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?

    Not let my cousin come, even if one or both of the husbands don't attend

    Let cousin come, but only if its the the place of another guest

    Let him come regardless

  • Post # 4
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    If he’s coming in the place of a guest who can’t make it, I don’t think it’s a problem, but I wouldn’t do it otherwise.  Honestly, the family lineage isn’t really all that relavent (first cousins vs. second cousins) what matters is how close you are, but given that you are inviting these people because of how close they are to your mother/grandmother I wouldn’t spend any more energy on it– if one of the husbands can’t make it, he can fill that seat– otherwise, tell your mother that she needs to explain to your extended family that there simply isn’t room. 

    Post # 5
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    You “should insist that only people who are invited by name be allowed to attend.”

    “we’ve both lived in NY for years we have never once hung out or connected.”-So that tells you he obviously shouldn’t be there. 

    You can avoid this with a very detailed reply card- another Bee created the one below, and I think it’s fantastic. If they still try to invite John, tell them something like this-

    “we’re so thrilled you’re all so excited, unfortunately we only are able to extend the invitation to you and your husband, as indicated on the invitation. If this means you are not able to make it, we understand and you will be missed”


    Post # 7
    25 posts
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Personally, I would say only those invited by name be allowed to attend, unless its a person that you would genuinely want to be there (which doesn’t seem like the case since you said in your perfect world none of these people would make the effort to come!) But, if your great aunt is going to make you feel guilty and it isn’t going to be worth listening to her, you could just give in. You’ve just got to decide which you’d prefer… annoying your great aunt or having more people you don’t care if they attend you wedding invited.

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