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posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1011 posts
Bumble bee

My venue holds a max of 250, and I don’t plan on inviting more than that.  I’d be happier with 150!

Post # 4
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m iffy on this because it creates a sense of A list people and B list people. A being more important than others. Solidify 250 and leave it at that.

Also, don’t ever take for granted the conventional “Only 80%” will show up thought process. I’ve seen almost 100% in attendance, and at one point after my Save-The-Date Cards went out, I thought we were going to have close to 75% on a destination wedding. It scared the ever loving Jesus out of me.

Post # 5
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t send the extra out right away. I say send the first 250 out maybe a little earlier and then based on those responses, send out another round. The last thing you want is everyone you have invited to come and not have enough room.

Post # 6
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A lot of people will talk about the 80/20 rule. Supposedly, %80 of your guest will come, %20 won’t attend.

I think this is a good rule, but can be influenced by a lot of things such as how many people are coming from out of town, how big your families are, time of year etc…

If you want around 250, invite more than 250, but think about the number that you think will actually come to the wedding as well.

Post # 7
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve heard a rule that you should approximate that 20% of the people you invite will not attend the wedding, but I feel like it really just depends on your situation.  Do you have a lot of people that you think might not be able to come?  It also might not be a bad idea to just invite 250, see how many acceptances you get, and then send out a second set of invites (the “B list”) to cover how many spaces you have left.

Post # 8
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our venue holds 125, but we are inviting 140ish and keeping in mind that about 25 are definite no’s who we are inviting anyway.  I think we would be happy if we ended up with about 100 guests.

I do think you need to keep in mind that it is always a possibility that everyone you invite will decide to come.  Granted, this is is slim chance, but it is possible.  So I wouldn’t go too far over the 250 mark. 


Post # 9
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

like jaylii9 said, a lot of people mention the 80/20 rule, but i think you need to really consider your guests, and chances are you’ll be able to figure out who is likely to come. for instance, i invited 180 people, and we had 173 say yes! (which was great, since thats what we anticipated)

Post # 10
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We have an A & B list – it sucks but it was the only way to keep our numbers down. Our venue holds 400 but we can’t afford more than 230.

I agree with the ladies who say be careful about the people you think will decline. My cousin invited family from Ireland thinking it was a nice gesture but that they wouldn’t spend the time & money to come — every.single.one. of them came.

Post # 11
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our venue held 90 people max, and we invited about 100 total. We ended up having 75 people total, including ourselves.

I would only send out 250 invitations. There’s no reason to invite more people just because you can (unless you want to of course). No, 250 people will not come (usually a good rule of thumb is to expect 65-80 percent of those people to attend, depending on the size of the wedding), but hey, that’ll save you money, right? 🙂

Post # 12
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We invited 122 and got 93 yesses.  But, it wasn’t who we expected.  We were really surprised some people came, and then surprised other people said no.  Two sets of aunts and uncles (who all went to both my sisters’ weddings) didn’t come to ours.  But random great-aunts (who both said no to my sisters’ weddings, even though one was within walking distance of one aunt’s home!) came and loved it.  So………you can’t count on anything!!

Post # 13
908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We invited 280 (We had a lot of international guests).  We estimated that about 215 of them would seriously be able to come.  We ended up with 170. 

I was REALLY dissapointed and shocked at how many people couldn’t make it, not to mention the last minute no-shows.  I was also upset b/c I had to cut some people who I really wanted to invite.

If you can manage to get your invites out about 3 months ahead of time, you can send out some b-list invites as you receive “No” RSVPs.  Have these ready to go.  I wouldn’t send out any within 6 weeks of the wedding though.

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