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posted 2 years ago in Guests
  • poll: How to handle my moms side of guest list??
    Suck it up and invite them. : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Don’t invite them even if it hurts my moms feelings : (9 votes)
    50 %
    Try and get an honest answer from my mom on her thoughts : (7 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 2
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Chula Vista Golf course

    Nope. Your day, your call. If they are toxic, leave them out. They will just ruin it anyway. 

    Post # 3
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    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 1983

    Twenty toxic people at your wedding? No way.

    Post # 4
    Member
    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    Presumably her mom is your grandmother? Would you consider inviting just her, or is it that bad?

    Post # 7
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    4469 posts
    Honey bee

    Does she not have any close work or other friends you could invite?  Sometimes family consists of the people you make your family, not the people you are related to by blood.  If the whole point is that she won’t have anyone of “her own” there, take a broader view of who “her own” consists of.

    Post # 9
    Member
    334 posts
    Helper bee

    Tell your mom what you have told us and try to get her honest feelings. I think you two can figure out the best way to go about this. Good luck bee!

    Post # 10
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    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with other PPs. I would have a discussion with your mom about who she wants to have at your wedding. Who are her close friends and co-workers. Just clarify that you don’t want the family members who are toxic there. I’m sure your mom will jump at the chance to have the significant people in her life at your wedding.

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