Post # 17
I think that is good advice. and yes, the rule was not we had to have met them, but since he is over the number of invites we each had, I feel like it is a more valid reason for him not to be able to invite more people then me. When I was around some of these relatives he purposefully avoided them because he did not want to make small talk, yet now is trying to get them invited to our wedding. I think I do need to try to get less worked up and upset when we do talk, and maybe that will help him keep calm. Thanks!
Post # 18
I would tell him that he needs to cut 10 people. His limit is 85.
We were over ours by 10 people. We then split our guest list into an A and B list and ended up with 30 people on the B list. Of course we would like these people to come, but others are more important.