(Closed) Guest List

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You can cut guests for teen cousins.. only let people in serious relationships bring dates. Have you also considered inviting only certain family members? You might be able to invite aunts/uncles and cut cousins but thats only if you aren’t close. 

I don’t think kids would care to just see the ceremony, I’m a personal fan of childless weddings. 

I only invited family that I was close to and not the people I haven’t seen in years. I also had 18 and over for my wedding and I ended up right where I wanted. I hope this helps!

Post # 4
Member
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can cut all the younger kids out and say it’s an “adult event only.”  And you can tell them no plus 1s unless they’re married.

Post # 5
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I would cut guests for teen cousins.  I would also cut anyone under 18.  

You need to make “rules” – like only a +1 if you’re living together or engaged (or together for 5 years)… they only get invited if we’ve talked to them in the last 3 years… 

You can’t really invite kids to the ceremony and not the reception, without causing a huge inconvenience for the parents.  Plus, kids don’t really care about the ceremony.  They want the cake and dancing. 

Post # 6
Member
196 posts
Blushing bee

We are inviting grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles, but no cousins.  You only need to invite a guest if the person you are inviting is engaged, living together, or married, which shouldn’t apply to a teenager.  (If this is all family, no one should need an extra guest.  There will be lots of people there they know.)

Post # 8
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@TequilaSunrise: if its evening – definitely nix the kids. 

If you cut out un-married/non-livingtogether/engaged plus ones, and the kids, are you under 100?  I would hate for you not to be able to invite friends!

Post # 10
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@TequilaSunrise: no problem!!  I love WB too! 

Post # 11
Member
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You can definitely cut the kids, and teen cousin guests. The youngest two people we’re inviting are my 18 & 20 year old nephew (which caused MAJOR drama with my brother that we’re not having children, therefore the 5 year old’s not invited to an evening wedding, but that’s a whole other story.) We’re not doing any “plus” guests, with possibly the exception of my Dad’s business partner (whom I’ve known my whole life.) I’m also only inviting 1 out of 12 cousins- everyone’s so spread out across the country, and there’s only one who’s local, who I’ve seen in the past 5 years.  

If you’re cutting kids, you might want to call those families personally (or have your Mom or Future Mother-In-Law help), so there are no surprises. Most people should be reasonable. 🙂

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