(Closed) guest list

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@raspberrymom4:  Are the groom’s parents contributing any money to the wedding?

If they aren’t, I’d say that you can approach this one of two ways.

1) You and your Fiance choose who to invite from their side and tell them who is and isn’t invited

2) You tell your FI’s parents how many people they are allowed to invite and let them figure it out. Tell them that they only get x number of people and unfortunately, due to space, you can’t give them more.

Post # 4
13017 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no set number of how many people to invite, but the easiest way is 1/3 to the groom’s side, 1/3 to the brides side, and 1/3 to the couple.  However, it doesn’t work easily this way (I have 30 first cousins, and Fiance has two…so my family is a lot bigger than his and has more). 

Is there anyone on your FI’s side that his family would be willing to cut?  Have you tried explaining the space issue?  Are the grooms family paying for any amount of the wedding? 

Post # 5
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@raspberrymom4:  It depends on your venue size, and who is contributing.  If they are contributing, they get more of a say in the guest list than if they are not.

Also, if someone is in a relationship you must invite their significant other.  It isn’t polite to split up social units.  Think about it – you’re celebrating love and being a couple, why would you exclude couples from being there?

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