Post # 1
SO, my fav venue has a offset in how many can fit in the ceremony (45 with their chairs or 60 if you rent smaller chairs) and then how many can be served for the dinner and party (up to 95)
so in my head, I am rentuing chairs I wont be cutting out half the guests lol …now ppl who wont sit 6 maids/grooms men (total) 1 flower girl 1 ring boy) The groom and myself and our friend who is marrying us ….
so that gives us 11 off the 60 so 71 guests can sit… still leaving up to 24 who can’t watch us get married?
Should I just cut my list down?
A friend said how many family friends are coming with new gf’s bf’s you hadn’t even met… set up a lounge have them have drinks and play games and have your real family and friends watch you get married … then you dont need to cut anyone
I think that might be in poor taste though, i suppose another choice could be to not give people dates if they are not serious and i never met there date I dont know
should we just trim the list?
is the lounge and games drinks and like i guess early cocktail hour for people who i have never met a good idea?
I know me and my friends are pretty chill i wouldn’t care if my date was close to a bride or groom and i just started seeing him neverm et them if they asked me to just party a lil (as long as its not only me) but there be like 24 ppl so it would be fun i wouldnt mind but i am pretty chill)
Post # 3
I think it’s a little strange to invite people to a wedding, but put them in another room for the actual ceremony. I would cut the list before sending people to a ‘during the wedding cocktail hour’.
Post # 4
i would cut the list so everyone can attend both the ceremony and reception or find another location.
Post # 5
Um, I would be totally offended if I came to a wedding and they made me skip the ceremony and sit in another room without my date because I wasn’t a “real” friend. No, just no. Trim the list or find a new venue.
Post # 6
Is standing room an option? Or just plain squeezing in more? I imagine if you asked your venue they might be able to scooch in a few extra chairs if it’s a deal-breaker for you selecting that venue. Also I don’t know if you want to make the ring bearer and flower girl stand up with you during the ceremony, depending on the relationship, the age, and how long your ceremony is. Most weddings I’ve seen they’ve gone to their mom after doing their job.
Personally I wouldn’t be offended as a guest if I was told I couldn’t bring a +1 to the ceremony but they would fit in the reception if I’d like. If it’s local I wouldn’t have any problem telling a date to meet me at the cocktail hour, but I’d save that for local friends with non-serious relationships.
Post # 7
My ex’s sister had a similar issue. She invited me to reception only and not the ceremony. I was a bit hurt, but I once she told me that she would have to exclude her aunt to make room for me, I understood and dealt with it.
It’s your call, but it might be easiest to just cut the list.
Post # 8
Ya cutting it is definately more realistic … i might just not give all my moms best friedns sons dates I love the boys i known them since I or they were born … but letting each of them bring a date takes it form 5-10 and i have lots of ppl like that … it might just be ezer to let some ppl come in family as solo
also my mom wants me to invite people i dont even really know, its so stressful just family for my side with dates is like 30 and thats jsut family not even friends or his side
i guess it will be time to trim ppl for sure
Post # 9
@jennmariee: thats not a bad idea for standing room, maybe just have the older ppl sit i could def sk about that
Post # 10
You need to cut your list. Why did you choose a venue that wouldn’t accomodate everyone? Please, do not offend your nearest and dearest with your friends suggestion. If I arrived at a wedding and was told to go chill because there wasn’t room for me at the ceremony I would leave.