Post # 1
So i have been banging my head against a wall over this, I just don’t know what to do.
Our venue allows for 160 max. I have invited some of my coworkers, but not all. Our department is not small, but it’s not reall big either. All of the people that I have invited from work are people that I have done things with outside of work. But here is the dilema I face. After looking at the list of co-workers, I realized that there are 2 people from my shift that I have not invited. 1 I absolutly can not stand and in a million years would never invite. The other is a male co-worker that can be a little annoying, but he isn’t a bad guy. But we don’t socialize outside of work.
I am not giving out the invites at work, they are being mailed out. But should I include him in the invites? I don’t want to insult him by him being the only one from our shift that I don’t invite, but at the same time, that’s another one on the list, and where do I stop? I have invited 11 of my 20 coworkers, plus my 4 managers have been invited also.
Anyone have any advice? I was thinking of mailing those that I did not invite and announcement, so as not to look like a total b*tch. But the more I add, the more I worry that I will run out of seats and have to turn people away.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about it. I haven’t invited all of my co-workers or even my boss(es). I’m inviting who I hang out with and who I feel best with. Evreyone (should) understand that almost everyone is on a budget.
Post # 4
“But the more I add, the more I worry that I will run out of seats and have to turn people away.”
If that was a serious statement then you really need to reevaluate your guest list. You can’t possibly invite all of these people to your wedding and then turn them away because you don’t have enough room.
As for the co-workers, office politics are tricky. Even though the invites are being sent to their homes, talk of your wedding will still more than likely occur at work which will put your co-workers that you didn’t invite in an uncomfortable position. I’m personally in the “invite them all or none at all” camp but I understand that sometimes thats not possible. It’s hard to play favorites when it comes to the people you spend 40+ hours a week with.
Post # 5
I am probably going to invite everyone in my department (only 5 of us) and the co-workers I actually hang out with outsie of work. I kind of feel like you should invite them all or none at all, at least with regards to your immediate department.
Post # 6
I would have no problem inviting everyone if we had a bigger venue, but we don’t. Or if there were fewer people in my department. I have 20 people in my department, plus all of their SO’s. I would be looking at another 18 people to add on, which is out of the question. We are at 164 people without this last co-worker. I have said at work many times that we are limited to the number of seats. So it’s not any secret. I just don’t know how to tell him sorry, but your the only one on the shift that I didn’t invite (that I actually like) or do I just invite him and hope I don’t piss off someone else, feel bad, and end up inviting them.
Post # 7
I’m in a similar situation. There are only 4 of us in my department, one of which is my manager, and although most of the time she’s alright, she’s never made an effort to come to anything else I’ve invited her too. Her cousin works with us also, and she let it slip that her husband doesn’t like to do anything so he makes her stay home too…uhh okay but whatever. I don’t want her to RSVP yes to our wedding, and just not show up (which she just did last year for someone else’s wedding.)
I also feel obligated to invite her cousin who was the one that hired me. Without her, I wouldn’t have been working there right?
They’re on my B list.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just don’t talk about your wedding at work. If the guy says something, just say “we had limited space and so I only invited people that I have a relationship with outside of work.”
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about it…everyone should understand that it’s your wedding, and you’re not going to invite the whole office!!