(Closed) Guest list and co-workers

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it. I haven’t invited all of my co-workers or even my boss(es). I’m inviting who I hang out with and who I feel best with. Evreyone (should) understand that almost everyone is on a budget.

Good Luck:)

Post # 4
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

“But the more I add, the more I worry that I will run out of seats and have to turn people away.”

If that was a serious statement then you really need to reevaluate your guest list. You can’t possibly invite all of these people to your wedding and then turn them away because you don’t have enough room.

As for the co-workers, office politics are tricky. Even though the invites are being sent to their homes, talk of your wedding will still more than likely occur at work which will put your co-workers that you didn’t invite in an uncomfortable position. I’m personally in the “invite them all or none at all” camp but I understand that sometimes thats not possible. It’s hard to play favorites when it comes to the people you spend 40+ hours a week with. 

Post # 5
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am probably going to invite everyone in my department (only 5 of us) and the co-workers I actually hang out with outsie of work.  I kind of feel like you should invite them all or none at all, at least with regards to your immediate department. 

Post # 7
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m in a similar situation.  There are only 4 of us in my department, one of which is my manager, and although most of the time she’s alright, she’s never made an effort to come to anything else I’ve invited her too.  Her cousin works with us also, and she let it slip that her husband doesn’t like to do anything so he makes her stay home too…uhh okay but whatever.  I don’t want her to RSVP yes to our wedding, and just not show up (which she just did last year for someone else’s wedding.)

I also feel obligated to invite her cousin who was the one that hired me.  Without her, I wouldn’t have been working there right?  

They’re on my B list.

Post # 8
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it. Just don’t talk about your wedding at work. If the guy says something, just say “we had limited space and so I only invited people that I have a relationship with outside of work.”

Post # 9
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it…everyone should understand that it’s your wedding, and you’re not going to invite the whole office!!

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