Post # 1
So my fiance and I are getting into planning and I’m worrying a little about the vibe of our wedding. Our budget calls for a somewhat limited amount of guests and there’s a definite number of family and friends who we will be inviting without question. This is about 30 people. Our budget would be great for this number but I’m beginning to worry. We’re not crazy party people but we would like our wedding to be very fun and celebratory.
Would it be odd to have primarily family and about ten friends? I have many coworkers who we regularly go out with and invite to holiday parties at our apartment but narrowing down who I would/wouldn’t invite out of that group of people seems impossible (I could barely do it for our halloween party this year!) and I don’t want to increase our guest list by a crazy amount…
I know it depends on the crowd and everyone’s personality… I guess I’m mostly looking for anyone who had a similar sized wedding, similar worries or a similar ratio?
Post # 2
Sorry if this doesn’t make sense! I’m usually such a planner and I know that once we have a venue everything will be more fun for me but right now this is all throwing me for a loop!
Post # 3
I think if you’re having a smaller wedding it’s totally fine to keep it majority famil/some friends and avoid work friends and general acquaintances.
Post # 4
We have a similar problem except we are trying to keep it at 50 because I have 5 siblings plus their spouses and kids (and I’m close to them) so with my immediate family we are allotting more but its still feeling super tight. My SO has only 1 unmarried sibling plus parents but he still has both sets of grandparents, 5 close cousins, much more distant cousins, uncles, etc and then theres his friends, and people from his church that is just like family. I’m having a bit of anxiety thinking about it because hes from a small town where everyone you know is “like family” but we dont have the money for all of them.
So I understand how you’re feeling and its absolutely fine to keep it intimate and keep friends / people you arent super close to, to a minimum. My SO is super nice and sociable and I already foresee a headache discussing the guest list because it’s hard to axe someone that watched him grow up and yadda yadda but we’re limited in budget.