Post # 1
Help!!! My parents are divorced and remarried so I have multiple sides to my family, and my fiance has a large family as it is so a guest list could get EASILY out of hand. We’ve already pretty much decided to just go to the courthouse but we still want to have a reception to celebrate. It is really important to us to still celebrate with our loved ones somehow but we don’t want anything huge and over the top with tons of people. Does anyone have suggestions on how to do this? I’m just super stressed about hurting people’s feelings. Any tips/suggestions would be great, thanks.
Post # 2
Dearest Bee- Planning a wedding is very costly so it makes sense to make sure you celebrate with your closest loved ones (unless you have an unlimited budget, then you can invite whoever). Honestly, there will always be people around you who will take offense to not being invited, even if you’re not even close friends. I had co-workers who were “offended” they didn’t get an invitation as well as extended family I hadn’t seen or spoken to in years and years. Ultimately, I didn’t feel spending the extra money on inviting them was worth it for me. Sorry! (Nor sorry).
I’d say it’s perfectly acceptable to invite only your closest family members and friends in order to keep the event small and intimate. You don’t really have to explain yourselves to anyone. This is your wedding and it has to be about you two and whatever makes both of you comfortable. In the end, people will get over it. Best of luck!
Post # 3
sit down with your fiancé and start by making a list of who you MUST have there.
Remember that you don’t have to invite everyone you’ve ever met, and you don’t have to invite all of your parents friends (and you don’t even have to invite family that you don’t talk to!). Just invite those you really really care about.
Post # 4
I actually just went through “Guest List Wars” as I’ve been calling them and it was a nightmare. We went through and labeled everyone A, B or C. When the numbers were out of control, it was super easy to chop off the C’s and go through the B’s. Fiance’s family did not do the same. They were adamant that everyone was an A. So we had to throw out his list and restart. For his side we invited in circles. Immediate family, Aunts/Uncles, Cousins, friends of family, etc. until we filled up the number that we watned to invite. It was a pain, and there have still been issues with it, but the Save the Dates went out last week, so we are done fighting! Figure out a system that works for both of you and then stick to it!