Guest List Anxiety

posted 3 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

crush :  My mom was so mad when we told her no kids, she said some awful things to me.    My brother has 4 kids who will all be under 5 years old at the time of our wedding. Only one of our other friends has young children and he already said he would find a sitter for the night.   Thankfully, the only one mad about that was my mom.  I think she had visions of us including the kids in the ceremony.  My brother and SIL are not upset at all and are going to make it work.  

Post # 17
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3090 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

We decided to base our guestlist off how active a role people actually have in our lives. So when it comes to friends, only ones who we regularly see and are part of our regular life. With family, we cut it off at people who we have actually seen in the last couple years and talk to at least a couple times a year. 

There are plenty off people not on our list who we were close with at one point in our lives and who we do truly love and value, but we wanted our wedding to be about the life we have built together and continue to build together, so it makes sense that our guest list is made up of people who have an active role in that life. Make sense? 

We are also pretty lucky that both our families are super chill so we aren’t anticipating any major drama from anyone not invited. 

Post # 18
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

tomandrachael :  It’s so good that your brother and SIL are ok with not bringing their kids. It’s frustrating that our moms don’t understand why we don’t want to have kids at our weddings. So far it seems like most people we know aren’t bringing their kids to our wedding. I’m still trying to figure out a polite way to speak to the few people who I think are planning on bringing their kids. We are considering hiring a babysitter which hopefully can be a win win for everyone involved.

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