Post # 1
My (bride) parents are being very genous and paying for most of the wedding. My fiance and I are paying for the rest. When we put together the guest list we had about 150-200 people we were inviting. My fiance’s parents are divorced. My fiance’s dad told me to invite an extra 60-70 friends and family that my fiance and I don’t even know. That is about $1000 more for food, and we don’t have a lot of extra money to spend on more food. And his dad is not helping pay for anything. My parents said they would help paying for the catering but I don’t want them to have to. Should I invite all of his friends? And my parents that are actually helping pay for the wedding are not inviting any of there friends.
Post # 3
I would give him a number that you’re comfortable adding to your list, and say “You have x many invitations that are earmarked for you, please give me the names of those people” and make him make cuts. IMO, people who aren’t paying for the wedding don’t get much of a say on anything, including the guest list.
Post # 4
@lindsayperson: You have to stand your ground and draw a line for him. Just say, we’re hoping to keep it under X number. Have him get rid of a certain amount. We did this with my Father-In-Law..my situation is very similar to yours..DH’s parents are divorced and the guest list was HUGE..and his dad only contributed a small amount. He was fine about it..but you have to be firm
Post # 5
Stand your ground. Try and compromise with your Future Father-In-Law, but in the end you get to decide how many guests he gets to add on.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Wow- he’s looking to add almost half your total guest list! We nipped this issue in the bud early on, by telling both families what their total invite numbers were capped at- B lists are allowed. Tell him firmly-due to our budget, you may invite this number.