(Closed) guest list bigger then wanted

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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12954 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would give him a number that you’re comfortable adding to your list, and say “You have x many invitations that are earmarked for you, please give me the names of those people” and make him make cuts.  IMO, people who aren’t paying for the wedding don’t get much of a say on anything, including the guest list.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@lindsayperson:  You have to stand your ground and draw a line for him. Just say, we’re hoping to keep it under X number. Have him get rid of a certain amount. We did this with my Father-In-Law..my situation is very similar to yours..DH’s parents are divorced and the guest list was HUGE..and his dad only contributed a small amount. He was fine about it..but you have to be firm

Post # 5
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Stand your ground. Try and compromise with your Future Father-In-Law, but in the end you get to decide how many guests he gets to add on.

Post # 6
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Wow- he’s looking to add almost half your total guest list! We nipped this issue in the bud early on, by telling both families what their total invite numbers were capped at- B lists are allowed. Tell him firmly-due to our budget, you may invite this number.

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