- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
I have a really close friend that I really want at my wedding. We’re very close, and she’s so sweet and awesome, she’s actually volunteered to bake my wedding cake and cupcakes, and help with a bunch of DIY projects leading up to the wedding. I actually initially wanted her to be a bridesmaid, but we ended up selecting only family for the bridal party.
The problem is she used to be in a serious relationship with my fiance’s cousin. They had an ugly breakup and now he’s married with a kid (and they only broke up about a year ago). My fiance and his cousin aren’t particularly close, but he does want to invite his immediate family which would include his cousin and his new wife.
But my friend really doesn’t think she can attend the wedding if they’re going to be there. I feel awful about that and she feels terrible because she really wants to be there, but she called me in tears saying that she really doesn’t think she could handle being in the same room with them for hours at a time and seeing them happy together. But she doesn’t want me to request for them to be uninvited since she doesn’t want my fiance or any of his family to think she’s petty or jealous, she just really doesn’t think she could emotionally handle it.
Is there anything I can do about this to make the best of a bad situation? I’d love for her to be there, but does family trump all (even if it’s not family he’s close to)? The only thing I can think of is to invite the cousin but just hope that they can’t come :p