Post # 16
zzar45 : you don’t need to invite the cousins. And if your uncle decides not to come because of it? Great! One fewer person to cut from your guest list!
one thing to please please please do – invite everyone’s SO. Do not create some sort of “you just have been together X years” cut off or some “no ring no bring” rule. Those thoughts seem to pop up a lot, and it’s really horrid to judge others relationships. Cut the cousin, but make sure you leave room for peoples SOs.
Post # 17
I have five cousins on my mom’s side. There are all gown with kids and grandkids. I not close to them but am close to their mom (my aunt). I want her at my wedding if she will come. She is older and if she can come she said her son (her lives with her would have to come to help her. I don’t have a problem with that or even inviting all the cousins ( I don’t think anymore than the one will come. They live in MI, I’m in FL)
My problem is our venue and my Fiance Step mom. Our venue has said we can only have 100 people total. FI Step mom says they have to invite a lot of their business contacts. She says they do business with them and they “have to be invited”. She says most of them problem won’t come because they live 7 hours away (FI home town). With all the cousins and the “business contacts” and everyone else were at a head count of 120. I know not everyone will come and our venue has said we can have extra people (no extra charge) just the seating will be crowded with more than 100.
Fiance parents are paying 50% of the venue, plus for the liquor and flowers so they do have a say in who is invited. FI Step mom is throwing us a couples shower in her town so the “business contants” who can’t come to the wedding can celebrate with us. I just worried about the total head count and won’t know till the RSVP come back.