(Closed) Guest List Cuts

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Which 'rules' did you use to trim your list?
    No/limited +1 : (14 votes)
    39 %
    How recently you've been in touch with the potential guest : (9 votes)
    25 %
    Age cutoff (no kids) : (9 votes)
    25 %
    Immediate Family Only (no extended family) : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Other - details below! : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I didn’t have to (parents being verryyyyy nice to me) but I want a smaller wedding… I cut anyone I’d never met before (not an option on your poll) but people who Future In-Laws or my parents suggested and I truly did not know… what do I say at the wedding to them? Why are they there if they don’t know me/aren’t in my or FI’s life enough to know who we are? If they were good family friends, then yeah, they stayed, but for the most part, sorry–gone!

    And no kids, since our venue is a little dangerous (dock out to the marsh/river with NO rails); no plus ones to cousins that were old enough but would be attending with their families/knew a ton of family, except for ONE case in which we are both close with his cousin and her b/f who are both sweet as pie.

    So yeah… lol. lots of cuts!

    Post # 4
    Member
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We literally have a 20 person limit because it’s a destination wedding.  So first thing to go were the +1’s for anyone not married, simply because 1) there weren’t many kids involved anyway, and 2) in most cases we didn’t know them and we had to first incorporate our loved ones.  I know this is the extreme case, but it’s worked for us so far!  Cutting kids is an easy option just because they are kids and don’t really want to be there anyway. The only thing is having disgruntled parents wondering what to do with them…oh well!

    Post # 5
    Member
    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I am not doing a save the date and sending my invites out about 8 weeks before hand to everyone, long distance or not.  That way if they can come, they can, but I have full knowledge that most folks won’t be able to afford to come or may not be able to make the appropriate arrangements and I am definitely okay with that. I hope that by using this method my guest list is only around 50-60 people… Cross your fingers.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We don’t have a whole lot of family that live near us, so we are inviting as many people as possible.  Whoever can come, we will be glad to host!

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