(Closed) Guest List Dilemma – clashing with dad :(

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have you explained to your father that the venue has a restriction on number of guests and you don’t want to use almost 50% of your invites on your cousins?

Post # 4
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Normally I would say it is your wedding do what you want but since he is contributing financially you cant do that.  I have found in this whole planning process that people have specific visions in their head as to how your day will go even if it is not what you see happening.  The best way to understand why it is important him to have them there is to talk about it with him. He may have a specific reason he wants them there.  He may not understand the vision you have for your wedding so explain it in detail and use pictures so he understands.  If he is still insisting try to compromise and go with kids over the age of 12.

Post # 5
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


I know it’s a strech, but I would firmly tell him the guest list has been decided as you are the couple.

Only those you are close to deserve reception invites, and let him know that after ALL your friends have been added you only have a certain number available for those over the age of 18 as this is an ‘adult’ evening.


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