(Closed) Guest list dilemma (family)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

@dee_gee:  I guess no one can tell you what to do. I’ve been in both sides, a cousin got married last year and she didn’t invite us cousins, just our parents (her aunts and uncles). We’re a close family but her parents were never close and they’ve actually looked down on us since I can remember. The thing here is that she invited some of the family and that created more conflict than if she had overlooked the whole family.

Now, that I’m getting married I really don’t care for them, I don’t like them but how can I invite 90% of the family and overlook them? I feel like I’m being the bigger person here, but being honest I really think they won’t show up at all.

It really depends on your current relationship with this people and the relationship you want in the future.

Post # 4
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@dee_gee:  Hmm that’s a hard one.  The best decision would just be whatever makes you and your fiance happy on the day of!  It’s hard to please everyone.  In the case that they do feel slighted that you didn’t invite them, you could always say that it was a small, intimate wedding with only close relatives and friends.

On a side note, one of my cousins (which I’m not that close to) didn’t invite me to his wedding, and actually, I was relieved.  I love weddings in general, but it’s only fun when it’s for someone that you truly care about.  Otherwise, it’s sometimes an obligation.  One that you have to give a gift for! 

Post # 5
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t invite 20 cousins that always come to our baby showers and always invite me to their stuff, but I just had to draw a line at 203 ppl,youcan always chop it up tonumbers. Me and my Fiance had a rule, we wanted ppl who not only were in our lives right now but who reach out to us and make an effort to be IN our lives. Sounds like if you went by that rulewhey wouldn’t make the cut…good luck in your decision, I can’t advise you but I can say the right choiceWeill feel right

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