(Closed) Guest list dilemma: Mom's family is tiny, Dad's family is huge

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Leave it as is. Don't invite people you haven't met/heard from in 10yrs just to even out numbers. : (13 votes)
    87 %
    Cut cousins' SOs and children. (Mom 4+, Dad 22) : (0 votes)
    Cut all cousins. Just grandparents, aunts, and uncles. (Mom 4+, Dad 12) : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Thin out the "Friends" section of guest list - weddings are about family. Party with friends later! : (0 votes)
    Cut the unmarried +1s, then scoot in 3 extras for Mom to invite (Mom 7, Dad 28) : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would worry more about keeping the family “levels” even than the numbers. We are just inviting aunts, uncles, and cousins (plus SOs and kids).

    Post # 4
    Member
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would leave it as it.  Why would you want to invite people you barely know just to have each with the same number.

    I think that is more fair then mom inviting weird random relatives.

    Fair doesn’t only mean equal numbers.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @aggie2010:  When I got married, my husband had 12 people travel to our wedding. I had 135. I left the list as is. Maybe see if your mom has friends she wants to come? I invited friends of both parents.

    What we did was have people sit anywhere they want in the church (I always hated the “bride’s side” and “groom’s side”) and we sat immediate family in the front of the banquet hall and proceeded from there.

    It will work out! People will be so happy to see you and your new DH!!

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