(Closed) Guest list drama!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you need to stand your ground.  That woman is completely ridiculous.  Who complains about wedding invitations like that?  You extended your hand and she slapped it away.  It sucks your Grandma is upset with you, but honestly I think she’ll get over it.  Tell her you love her, you’re sorry this is hurting her feelings and she’s upset with you, but that you won’t reward that kind of behavior.

I’d be thrilled they weren’t coming.

Good riddance to bad rubbish, I say.

Post # 5
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Every time I see threads like this I think “This HAS to be either fake or a total misunderstanding.”  There’s no way people can genuinely act like that and get SO upset over something SO insignificant, right?  Right!?

Post # 6
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i agree with VintageDivine.  


However, if you want to mend it over some you may still contact the aunt to let her know you’re sorry about the misunderstanding but i would definitely mention how you you didn’t know the cousin had a boyfriend and that was why he was not on the invite.  I would also call her instead of writing that way nothing gets misunderstood further (IF you decide it’s worth the time and effort).  Since you don’t seem to mind the boyfriend coming this would also allow you to extend the invitation.  Personally I would want to let it drop since the aunt completely overreacted.  would you really want someone like that at your wedding?  but i also know that if i was in your position i would be feeling really bad and would probably call her to discuss it.  

let us know how it works out! 

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t write the apology, you did nothing wrong.  They are definitely being ridiculous and are trying to start more drama by involving your grandma.  I would explain to your grandma that you’re sorry she’s been put in the middle but you don’t agree with them and would be better off with them not coming if they get this upset over something so insignificant.

Post # 9
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That’s ridiculous. You shouldn’t have to invite people you don’t even know exist. If you’re even allowing her to bring the boyfriend, thats way more than kind. I would say send them all to hell. 

Post # 10
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with the OP, I would just drop it and let your grandma know that you are sorry they are trying to use her to create drama, but that you aren’t going to dignify this by appologizing to a guest for not inviting their unknown SO to your wedding. 

Post # 11
14445 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh, if they probably weren’t going to come anyways, then whatever… let them use this as an excuse, you said your not close anyways, so no big loss.  Thats rediculous, you did nothing wrong and don’t need to be writing or giving any apology…. unless its to say sorry they were offended for no reason.

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