(Closed) guest list drama…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

@jj115: Do what you want! Its your wedding

Post # 4
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If they want them there, they should pay for the plates.

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just ignore them, change the subject on to something else going on with the big day, but don’t feel guilty! As you said, your not close with them!

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: December 2008

Just tell them that due to restrictions at the venue, you can’t invite everyone you would like. Then change the subject. 

You’re allowed to have the wedding you want. 


Post # 9
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d say politely say you’re doing what works for both you and your Fiance.  Stick with it and ultimately they’ll probably come around once the wedding comes and they see how beautiful it is.  And try to focus not on the venue, but more focus on telling them the “feeling” of the wedding you want, that you want it intimate and small and lovely.  Ultimately if they love you both, they’ll calm down and come around.  Otherwise…just have to be happy with your decision because its your own!

Post # 10
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

I would just explain that yoiur venue has room for X amount of people and because of it, you have to limit your guest list. Appologize for not being able to accomidate them, but state that you won’t compromise on your dream location.

You can always but those extended family members on such on a B list, and if you have extra room due to people declining your invite, ask them then.

Post # 11
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Weddings in the olden days were usually 200-300 person affairs, which is why parents don’t understand the whole “under 75 people, intimate weddings” that a lot of us go for. 

Explain to them that you’ve paid the deposit, you guys have your own vision, and you’re paying for it yourself.  

Better yet, just stop talking wedding with them until they have time to “process” your decision. 

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