(Closed) Guest list Drama (immediate Family) Please help suggestions

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
3383 posts
Sugar bee

View original reply
BizzyBeeBuzz15:  Stand your ground. You have “plus one” rules set in place for a reason. Your brothers Girlfriend of 5 months isn’t an exception. Your brother and mother can be mad all they want. As you said, you and your Fiance are paying for it, so no one else’s opinions are that important. 

Post # 3
Member
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Stand your ground. Rule for one rule for all. 

Post # 5
Member
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I agree, stand your ground and tell your brother no. Your brother bring his new “girlfriend” will only create drama AT your wedding. This is your wedding and has nothing to do with your brother and his new Girlfriend. Your brother needs to curb his drama, him and your mother need to be adults.

Post # 6
Member
2405 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it would be wildly inappropriate to let your brother bring his gf after he insisted that his ex NOT be allowed to bring her bf. If your mom brings it up again, be ready with a statement you’ve memorized. Maybe something like “Mom, ex-SIL is being super mature and understanding about not bringing her bf because of the potential awkwardness between her and Brother. I have faith in Brother that he can be mature and understanding for this ONE event. I mean, you did such a good job raising us… don’t you think he can do this one thing for me?”

Post # 7
Member
30399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

View original reply
BizzyBeeBuzz15:  Your brother is being an idiot. He cannot demand that his ex come solo but he gets to bring a date.

Post # 9
Member
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Let your brother bring her. It is only one person. You were asking for drama by having his ex as your Maid/Matron of Honor in the first place. How weird.

Post # 10
Member
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

View original reply
Jijitattoo:  Great statement! OP, use this!

Post # 11
Member
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would put family first.  They would put me first if I got divorced.  I would not be so mean as to have his ex as Maid/Matron of Honor.  Very disrespectful.   

Post # 12
Member
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
jess9090:  
View original reply
juanita.kelly.9:  Um…what? I have a friend who’s best friend since the age of 5 just so happened to fall in love with her brother and they married about a year ago. Are you suggesting that if they were to divorce, my friend can’t have her best friend as her MOH? Please. The bride has a right to have whoever she wants as her Maid/Matron of Honor and it’s not her problem if an ADULT can’t be mature about it and support his sister for even just one freaking day. His girlfriend has been in the picture for FIVE MONTHS and the OP hasn’t even met her yet. You can’t honestly expect the bride to virtually pick this stranger over her close friend.

View original reply
BizzyBeeBuzz15:  I would say stand your ground but if they keep at it then give him a choice: Either both partners come or neither at all. Your brother does not get to dictate who is on your guestlist for a wedding you are paying for. Tell him he can bring the girlfriend IF your Maid/Matron of Honor can bring her boyfriend. If not then both partners can stay home. If he threatens not to come then just tell him he’ll be missed. I can just see it now…the girlfriend will be shooting daggers at your Maid/Matron of Honor all night and the poor woman won’t even have her partner there to make her feel better. You don’t want that kind of negative energy on your big day.

Post # 13
Member
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Suki, if the bride cannot support her brother, she should not expect support from him.  I cannot imagine being so heartless to a brother.  

Post # 14
Member
3102 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m wondering if your brother and SIL are actually divorced or simply “broken up”. If they aren’t divorced it’s pretty messed up to bring a girlfriend to a wedding of all things. Thank your mother for her opinion and then tell your brother to go pound sand. He’s being a serious douche nozzle.

Post # 15
Member
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

View original reply
doberman:   The Maid/Matron of Honor has a BF too, so I see no reason to call the brother names. 

The topic ‘Guest list Drama (immediate Family) Please help suggestions’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors