(Closed) Guest list drama with parents..help????

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As long as your parents aren’t paying, I would tell them that no one is getting invited from their list until they cut it down to X number.   But perhaps that’s because I’m getting a little fed up with all the crazy stories I hear on the Bee about parents acting totally unreasonably (and as if it is their own wedding!).

 

 

 

My (perhaps more helpful suggestion) is would it be possible to have a notice in the church bulletin about the wedding to invite people from the church to only the ceremony?   I know this is acceptable in some areas, though obviously I would not do this if it would be considered rude to not also invite everyone to the reception where you live.

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We didn’t even ask our parents who they wanted invited. We are paying for the whole thing ourselves and while there are some people we would have like to invite, we didn’t simply b/c of cost. your parents need to understand that people do get that weddings are expensive….now if your parents are footing the bill then you may be out of luck.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think that if you invite someone to the ceremony they need to be invited to the reception, since that’s a “thank you” to your guests for taking part in your day.  

A public notice at church is one thing, but to send out invitations to people means they need to be invited to both.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I know that in the south especially, church weddings are in the bulletin and publicly advertised. So, obviously, you have no control over who shows up in that instance and you aren’t obligated to host them.

However, if you invite people, you are obligated to host them.  

I don’t know what kind of church you belong to or if this is a possibility though, but I think that’s what the previous poster meant.  

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