(Closed) Guest List – Easy Peasy or Stressful Nightmare? (poll)

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll:
    Easy Peasy - we created a list together and stuck to it, no exceptions : (21 votes)
    26 %
    Minor Hiccups - slight modifications made along the way, not too bad : (45 votes)
    56 %
    Stressful Nightmare - everybody and the mailman complained, changed list solely to please others : (15 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    2003 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    So far pretty easy. I did want child free, but his family has too many kids and I was told “that’s not how it’s done” *eye roll* 

    They did want to invite some cousins of his I don’t know out of politeness, I made it clear I wanted to know everyone at my wedding. I get a little more say over the guest list because none of my family will be there and his core family will be. 

    Post # 17
    Member
    8273 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    heavenlyflower :  we had a few disagreements with my Mother-In-Law because she wanted to invite a zillion friends. Darling Husband and I stood our ground and said due to space constraints we were allowing each parent 1 friend/couple to invite that wouldn’t have otherwise been on our list. If she wanted 2 she needed to fight her own husband to take his guest spots (which she eventually did). 

    Post # 18
    Member
    9218 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    easy peasy but…

    before we started discussing anything, i asked Darling Husband to make a list.  his list alone was 300 people.  i asked him who he thought would be paying for that many guests. he said i just said to make a list.

    my mom graciously paid for our wedding, she wanted to.

    i wanted about 50-80 people.  but we invited 120ish, i felt that was the right number for us and i didn’t feel it fair to ask my mom to pay for a ridiculous amount of people from his side. i had 40 people on my list and told him to make of list of 80 people.  he widdled it down and while he had to cut people he wanted there, this was the number i told him and he made it work.

    about 2 months before the wedding, i asked him why certain people weren’t invited from his side, he said he needed to make cuts.  so we invited a few more.

    Post # 20
    Member
    1481 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I am totally cool with having a big wedding, and initially we had planned to invite about 180. My parents are paying for a good portion of the wedding and thus are getting some say in the guest list. My trouble is that my mom keeps telling me new people she wants to add to the guest list (and now we are at 220), but then in the same breath she complains about how big the guest is getting and how it’s getting too expensive and we need to cut it down. It’s getting frustrating.

    Post # 22
    Member
    4231 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

    Our wedding guestlist was a no-brainer. We had 32 guests. Family and close friends. Most people are married or in a longterm relationship, only two people had ‘plus ones’ we’d never met. We agreed from the get-go not to invite coworkers because then things would just get complicated. Nobody had any complaints.

    But I know we got really lucky!

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