(Closed) Guest List Etiquette Question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@FutureMrsRubin:  If you’re not close, then skipping over them or putting them on the B list is fine.  Should they ever specifically ask why they weren’t invited, I’d cite the limited venue space and say that you unfortunately couldn’t invite everyone you wished to.

Post # 4
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

It’s absolutely fine to keep them off the list- I only invited one of thirteen cousins.

Keep in mind- if your family is helping to pay for the wedding, there may be some grief there. Also, aunts & grandmothers may question why the cousins weren’t invited. But just because someone’s related, you’re not required to invite them.

Post # 5
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

You can invite anybody you want. I didn’t invite any of my parents cousins. 

Post # 6
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not obligated to invite them–I’d just leave them off rather than putting them on a b-list, though. A b-list, if they figure it out (other family members got invitations much earlier, etc) is actually hurtful, In My Humble Opinion, but they will understand that you’re having a small wedding.

Post # 7
2709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CasperBoats:  I agree.  You definitely don’t have to invite them, but I would stay away from the b-list.  I think they can be very rude and hurtful.

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