Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married next June (almost a year from today)!
I am extremely excited, however we are on a limited budget, and therefore a limited guest list. Additionally, our venue’s max is 150 guests.
My question is this: There are family members on my father’s side (his cousins) who I see at the VERY most, once a year. I am not close with them whatsoever; they did not congratulate me on my engagement, nor did I feel the need to tell them.
I am personally absolutely fine with leaving them off the guest list in order to make room to invite other people in my life who, although unrelated, I am much closer with. People who I was happy to share the news with, and in return were ecstatic for me.
Is it okay to leave them off the list? Or put them on a “B” list?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsRubin: If you’re not close, then skipping over them or putting them on the B list is fine. Should they ever specifically ask why they weren’t invited, I’d cite the limited venue space and say that you unfortunately couldn’t invite everyone you wished to.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
It’s absolutely fine to keep them off the list- I only invited one of thirteen cousins.
Keep in mind- if your family is helping to pay for the wedding, there may be some grief there. Also, aunts & grandmothers may question why the cousins weren’t invited. But just because someone’s related, you’re not required to invite them.
Post # 5
You can invite anybody you want. I didn’t invite any of my parents cousins.
Post # 6
You’re not obligated to invite them–I’d just leave them off rather than putting them on a b-list, though. A b-list, if they figure it out (other family members got invitations much earlier, etc) is actually hurtful, In My Humble Opinion, but they will understand that you’re having a small wedding.
Post # 7
@CasperBoats: I agree. You definitely don’t have to invite them, but I would stay away from the b-list. I think they can be very rude and hurtful.