(Closed) Guest list expectations–

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

As a general rule, plan for everyone to come, or at least figure out a contingency plan in case they do all come. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

they say that 25% of your guestlist won’t attend.

for us, we invited a total of 309. 223 accepted and i think 194 actually showed up.

are a lot of your guests from out of town? are you having an adults only reception? those are things to take into consideration also. my family is willing to travel, so that wasn’t really an issue, but we were trying to keep the the kid count as low as possible, so a lot of people declined because of that.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It depends on your guests, if many have to travel, or if the wedding isn’t at a convenient time, your list will be shorter than most.  But if everyone is local, you could get a higher than usual turn out– It’s a BAD idea to invite more guests than you have room for though, it almost never turns out well. 

Just for reference, we only had 2 couples from our guest list who couldn’t make it– 1 was on vacation that week, and another couldn’t afford the cross country plane tickets; everyone else was able to come.  So it just depends on your guests. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@countrylove:  Wow, 50% is really low! I think if you are planning a community or corporate event that might be true, but I can’t imagine a turnout that low for a wedding in your hometown.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I did an A list and B list. My A list consist of what we agreed would be our max guest count due to our budget which was 135, we ending up inviting 139, we went over a little, but not by many. As we get regrets back we will send out to our B list which totals 9 people. I think you should do the same thing. You A list would be the 240 capacity, your B list will be the remaining 70. Just send your wedding invitations out earlier than you normally would have, as you get regrets from the A list, send out an invitation to the B list. DO NOT INVITE 310 people when your venue can only hold 240, its asking for trouble.

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