Post # 1
I am freaking out.
Our guestlist is up to (gulp) 430 people. I am on the verge of a panic attack. Our venue can handle it, we can cut the budget to accommodate it, but I DON’T WANT OUR WEDDING TO BE A CIRCUS!
my fiance doesn’t seem to understand my general unhappiness about this, and with him already telling people and save the dates sent out, we are stuck with this number.
anyone else have an out of control guest list, with no way out?
Post # 3
Eeek! The good news is that you have the budget and the space to accommodate everyone! In the end, some people might not be able to make it to your wedding. In your case, if 15% don’t come, you’d be down to about 365… still big but I don’t think it will be a circus! I think that you might need some help with table assignments (maybe let your FI’s family help with his guests, and your mom help with your family’s guests…). But overall, I’m sure it will turn out great.
I know someone who had 800 people attend her wedding (overseas- completely different culture where this is expected– but still!!!!)!!!!
Post # 4
Okay, that IS a large guest list. But you don’t have to worry about it being a circus. I’ve been to weddings as large as 350, and it felt just as meaningful as a wedding with 60. As you said, it’s already been decided – and I’m sure the guest list is that large because everyone on it is important to you, your Darling Husband, or your parents and is someone that wants to celebrate with you. Take a breath and be thankful for having all those people in your lives. There are so many things to worry about before your wedding (omg, I was constantly fretting over every decision – even ones that were set in stone). Don’t add one more to your list. Your wedding with be wonderful!
Post # 5
I agree with the others. If your venue and budget can handle it, then enlist the help you need and try not to stress. What’s done is done and in the end all that will matter is that you are married! Be greatful that you have that many people that want to share in this special day and enjoy it!
Post # 6
If you have this many people you want to include and your budget can handle it, it sounds wonderful.
I have only been to one wedding this large. Although I did notice how many people were there — how could you not — I did have time to speak with the bride and meet other friends of the bride and groom. It was not circus at all!
Good luck, and enjoy spending your special day with so many others.
Post # 7
oh honey, i feel ya. Our guest list right now is steadily approaching 300+. This is because of my side of the family. I don’t think they understand that it isn’t exactly within our budget and that we can’t just send out massive ammounts of invites assuming only 60% will attend (what if they all come?!). Our venue can handle it as well but our wallets cannot. And i definitely understand the whole circus aspect. Large family = people that i don’t even know (which means less intimate- more rowdy).
Post # 8
We invited 275 and only half are coming (140) due to it being out of state for most and the economy. You can count on that being a factor if you have lots of out of towners. We invited lots of distant family as well so they aren’t coming. Our venue only holds 180, so we were worried! But it’s all good and it’s only 10 days away now 🙂
Post # 9
Thank you everyone!
You really just calmed me down. As long as it is not a circus, I will be happy. ha.
Post # 10
Preaching to the choir. I have regular freakout moments in regards to our guestlist which at 390!!! I am hoping people don’t come to my wedding. How horrible is that?!! I purchased save the dates when our list was at 300 so it would have been a waste to not send them so I did. Now I wish I hadn’t because more people are likely to come now. I feel like its a such a horrible way to look at my wedding but it definitely scares me. Thanks for the post, I was glad someone else felt the same way.